Hi mum's, cut a long story short my partner just got out of jail and never told me he was getting out.. it's been 3 days and he hasn't called me or anything.. I've seen him online on Facebook and sent msgs and called but he's not opening them.. I'm so hurt and confused.. I think I have been ghosted ??
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He's dumped you. Your better off woth out him
I'm betting he'll be in contact when his needs change & you're useful for something. People like this don't change.
I'd use the opportunity to move on. There's much, much better opportunities for you out there!!
Have a good look at your life and why you're just hanging around for some guy that's been in jail. And on top of that, has not even bothered to contact you once he's out so can't have missed you or it would be the first thing he would do. Not trying to be horrible just truthful, you need to look at your self worth and if needed get help.
Transitioning back into society is extremely challenging. There is fear, loss of routine, the unknown, a feeling that everything could be ripped away and for a lot of people, the desire to cut ties with enablers and bad influences that will drag them back into poor decisions and risk returning to jail.
He might be battling his own demons and you're wonderful. In which case, move on with your life. You're probably better off without him and if he's reformed and your relationship is worth it he can choose to fight for it in a few years when he's ready.
On the other hand, he's making a choice to step away from you and his previous choices.
Either way, give him space. You've reached out and he hasn't responded. Now it's time to step back and leave the maybe of future contact in his hands. You might also decide you don't want him if he does contact down the track too and that's also ok