I am re-assessing my life , and I know that where I am now, isn’t making me happy .
But I feel very trapped, I don’t have many friends, or family- I come from a fairly traumatic, past dv relationships and have been with current partner for 9 years - but it doesn’t feel right, there’s a lot that makes me sad, and I don’t feel we agree on parenting, and just many other things.
I do want to leave, but I have re-assessed my income and looked at rentals etc around me for some time , and I simply can’t afford anything , plus other living expenses and three children ( 2 children from previous relationship there father is now deceased ) I don’t have any family , and rely on his mostly for support but there have been times that it’s become clear that they do side and support his as they are his family so in a separation I feel that their support would not be there , which would make it very hard to keep my job as they do a lot of the babysitting - we’ve been on the wait list for childcare forever but again it’ll just be another expense …
I feel really trapped and it’s starting to affect my mental morale . But I just can’t seem to find a way to leave, have a home, keep working and juggle parenting on my own- we have actually no family of our own and maybe 2 close friends .
How would others get through this, leave , etc ?
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Child care would be heavily subsidized as a single mum and you my might even get bumped up to the top of the list. Have you factored in child support and Centrelink in your budget? Also cash you'll have with sale of family home. Have you looked at moving to a cheaper area where housing is more affordable? Can you get a better job or increase your hours at work? Can you do some training/up skill whilst you are still with him to increase your earnings capacity? If you really want it, you'll have to make a plan. Good luck x