Do you ever question your friendships? My self esteem is in the gutter due to weight gain, peri menopause and general feeling s-**t about myself. I am questioning all my friendships. Ie do they actually like me, what do I bring to the friendship, are we only friends because of our kids etc. I don’t have many “best friends”. I just have a group of women who we get together in groups because of kids/history etc but no real deep connections. I’m feeling lost and lonely.
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Im not sure its weight gain and perimenopause as I have the same problems. I think the issue is finding the right people..
I keep my circle very very small. I have friends who I hang with once in a blue moon but only one I consider close. I would be looking for your closest friend and working on that relationship outside of the group or looking to see if you have a strong family connection e.g. sister.
Tbh I think other people are mostly driven by consumerism and I am also not a competitive person by nature which majority of people are, so I avoid. I can like people but feel they possess different values to me.
I used to be what I considered really soft and kind hearted but after being stomped on multiple times by the greedy masses.. the only way I can protect myself is to get away from others. I feel I try to hide away behind my weight gain as ridiculous as that sounds. It's an excuse to isolate further.
I find as soon as I try to connect with other people, they see someone they can use in some way. We have become another link in the consumerism chain. I am not depressed, I just cannot handle being drained.
As my close friend and I keep saying "people are just too peopley" lol.