Hi my husband of 18yrs has worked Fifo for 15 years month on month off, in that time we have had children. We have always had a great open relationship however our sex life is minimum being that he is away 6 months of the year. My body has learnt to not need it. At times I have used the toys. But have found with the toy sensation I loose the sensation of the real thing and can’t orgasm.
We have tried many things, I want to have sex but when I can’t orgasm and he goes my whole body shuts down and then I can’t get the urge back again.
I was wanting to put it out there for if there is others who have this issue and what they did about it?
Would it be stupid to ask him if he would allow an other guy on the seen while he is away to treat me needs?
which would allow me to want it when he gets home and not loose the vibration sensations and not able to orgasm?
If there such a thing?
I want more sex!!
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Are you sexting each other or video calling while playing? It would be much more intimate and also add to the build up when he comes home
Video calling while playing
My hubby is FIFO and I do not have this issue. I get playful with him via video calls and send each other things. I would be wondering whether when he is home there is time made for romance and intimacy. It should never be wham, bam, thank you ma'am. This may be something else.. possibly needing some therapy before you do something you may regret
Another man is a recipe for disaster. If you already have another man in mind, that's just looking for permission to cheat.
Find ways to create intimacy while hubby is away.
Can you not incorporate your toys into the sex with him? Surely he would rather that then you sleeping with who ever you want, and would you be okay with him sleeping with someone while at work? Or is it a cause for disaster.. would you then lose the sensation thinking about him with someone else, or because the other guy does things different. I'd be worried it would open a whole new can of worms.
(Zero judgement intended)