Hi IMs,
a) Is it reasonable for you to ask your hubby to say hi and goodbye when leaving the home?
b) Is it reasonable to roughly know where your hubby is?
c) Is it reasonable to want to spend some time together on weekends where you aren’t initiating it?
d) Is it unreasonable to be angry for your hubby to go out drinking every night whilst you are struggling with the kids?
e) Is it too far fetched to expect hubby to help out as an equal partner of the family and house?
I think I’m being gaslit…
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Other than d, those are all expectations I have for my teenagers (although e they aren’t equal partners, but are expected to help around the house). It’s basic respect for the person/people you are living with.
You are not being unreasonable, he is behaving like a single ahole while getting all the benefits of a substitute mummy at home.
Not one woman would want to sign up for that bullshit. So if he's trying to convince you otherwise, you are being gaslit. What a 🐖
not unreasonable at all
He'll NO!! It's supposed to be a partnership in life! I would want to know why he doesn't want to spend time with you and or the kids🤷♀️
You are in a toxic situation. You won’t believe how much better it will be when you don’t have a man child to deal with. Cut your losses, kick him out and live your best life. He is a horrible role model for your kids too so do it for them. You have to set the standard for acceptable behaviour in a relationship and this is NOT it