Is he lying or being honest?
I'm seriously losing my mind over this.
A year ago my husband broke my trust, long story short, he was looking at things he shouldn't have been.
He begged me to stay and promised me he wouldn't look it up again.
Today I had the opportunity to look at his Facebook because my son was on his phone.
I looked at his search history and there were heaps of women, and a few 'sexy women' type pages in his searches.
I confronted him about this not long after and he's sworn he never looked at these pages.
It's in his search history though?
Everything that's in my search history I actually looked up.
So either he's lying or someone has hacked his account.
I don't know what to believe anymore, and I am exhausted.
He argued black and blue he didn't search these women/pages.
Is he lying or should I believe him?
Is he lying or should I believe him?
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This is the exact same way my husband of 8 years started... I stayed until earlier this year because he always promised it wouldn't happen or he'd been hacked or whatever other b.s he could spin..
Leave now before he physically cheats on you. He will continue to push these boundaries & he will destroy your so
I know deep down he is lying.
I'm more hurt he would lie about it.
He cried, he said he had tried everything to make me happy, blah blah.
Now I'm just trying to work out how to leave.
I have a son to him so it's not as easy as packing and going.
I'm actually heartbroken that he can't even be honest and admit he looked them up, making me look like a delusional woman instead.
Lol sorry, no one hacked his account and looked up hot women
I know.
I'm just so disappointed he lied to me.
I've had it
How old is your son? Is it a possibility your son had searched these pages and your husband is in fact telling the truth!
Maybe before leaving sit and talk and find out why he looks, is there something that is lacking or he needs that maybe you could work through? Have you thought about the fact also of how he felt that the first opportunity you got you went through his phone?
So many people these days are so quick to throw away their marriage instead of working through their issues.
My son is 5, so I doubt it was him. Believe me I wish it was.
And I've asked him numerous times WHY he had to look up these sites, and he never had a proper answer except 'it was just pictures'.
It's been months since I've looked through his phone, and believe me, he REALLY broke my trust
Can I ask what he was looking at when you say that years ago he broke your trust? Everyone has different boundaries. Was it pornography? If so, what makes you uncomfortable with it? I’m wondering if there is a deeper issue than just him looking up stuff online.
He was looking at escorts and personal massagers, and was subscribed to Onlyfans girls. He even messaged one prostitute asking for prices at one stage.
There was no proof he actually went there, but I'm always thinking what if he did? He swears he didn't.
If he was looking at general porn sites, I wouldn't have worried.
It's just that things got more personal.
I'm going throught this right now, and I'm so sorry because it really bloody hurts doesn't it.
I found messages to other women from my husband a few months ago, he too begged and said it won't happen again (we have 3 children so it's not as easy as leaving so I get it)
Last week I again found messages to another women.
Wether we believe them or not it will always be in the back of our minds as they have broken our trust :( sending you alot of strength right now as it sucks x
I'm so sorry you are going through similar.
I haven't found messages from other women, I've just caught him in the past looking at local escorts and stuff like that.
After finding that stuff last year, trust is very limited.
I'm always worried that he actually went through with paying for sex, I just struggle to get it out of my mind
OP HERE!!!
I hate how mean some people are on the FB page and I can't reply because I want to remain anonymous.
He was caught looking at local escorts, prostitutes, sexy massagers, paying for Onlyfans.
He even messaged one to see how much her services cost.
This was a massive breach of trust, and yes I see this as a deal breaker.
After he promised me he would never do it again, I've seen this stuff. Not a big deal to some, but he PROMISED me he WOULDN'T.
It's the lying that's hurting me, and I don't know what to believe anymore.
I feel like I'm going crazy.
If it was just porn, I wouldn't have cared as much.
It's how personal it was all getting.
My son is also 5, so definitely not him looking up stuff!
Please do not pay attention to the advice on the FB page as the extra detail you have just provided here certainly does make him look wayyyy worse. Occasional porn is so different from what he has done! Definitely a deal breaker for me too.
Thanks, I should've explained more, so that's on me.
I just can't believe the assumptions people make, it's really nasty
I would actually put EDITED before the title name so it will show up on facebook page. Then at the beginning of your post put EDIT and add in some information. Hopefully people will read it then x