I don't even know where to start here or what I'm asking for advice for but here goes I got into a disagreement with a family member, anyway My husband got involved came in yelling screaming at me . He is now saying he is withholding buying new dinner because of said disagreement and said that he doesn't care what I think or if I tell anyone about what he saidb but he claims he was on my side.so how can he go from being on my my side to being so nasty ? Then he claims I was the ome yelling and causing this . Sisters what do I do . I feel like he knows what to say to get me mad, but I'm the bad guy .
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Gaslighting. No point arguing because he’ll tell you what you saw and experienced isn’t true at all and actually it was all you doing exactly those things. If he’s on your side, why are you fighting? You can’t win. You can’t say a thing to stop the shitfight. You just choose to put up with it or not. One thing I always say is to write down what happened. Over time he twists everythin, and he’ll be over this by tomorrow, but look back at your diary and see how many days he’s ruined for you with a fight and it helps a whole lot.
He has worked out all your triggers. You know what you are dealing with and he is trying to make you seem crazy and irrational. Ask yourself if it is even worth trying to communicate with someone who is not going into it with the same agenda? You want to resolve issues, he wants to make you the issue.