I got married at 31 and I've had people shocked I waited "so long" and even been asked if it's my second marriage. I don't tell people what age I got married anymore because people have acted like it's so old to get married at 31...surely not everyone marries for the first time in their 20s? Does anyone else who married at 30 + deal with this or is it just the town I live in that has this weird reaction?
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Lots of people are delaying marriage to pursue careers etc. I'm wondering if this is alot of the older generation throwing this judgement at you?? There is absolutely nothing wrong with getting married at 31 🤷♀️ If it's a small town, they do tend to love their gossip lol. If that's all they have to gossip about... I'd be happy haha
Yes it is mainly older people but I live in a capital city so it's not really a small town.
I would suggest it may be a generational thing then. People were getting married and starting families much earlier. Women were not as focused on pursuing their own careers etc. Different times. Only you can decide how much you let their opinions bother you <3
I have copped judgement for not ever getting married but it's really a them problem. At my age 40s, so many of my friends are getting divorced. So when anyone asks me about marriage I keep telling them I am skipping the first divorce because I only plan on getting married once 🤣
Haha that's a good one. I should use that. I do actually know a few people who were divorced before 30.
Lol I've learned people are a judgemental bunch ;)
I live in a regional area, although a large centre, not a small town.
Not marriage, but I copped a LOT for not having kids until my 30's - all from other mothers younger than me, and it was/is a constant stream of criticism & why we should all have babies at 21.
I just don't engage. Even though sometimes the comments try my patience. I don't have to defend myself by telling them what I did/achieved in my 20's.
Anyway, my point is, you'll get comments depending on generational or cultural differences, so just smile and nod and go live your life your way!
That sucks, I'm sorry you get negative comments. I actually had a child really young (17) but I definitely don't think everyone should have babies before 30 and I know some great parents who had kids older. My aunt had her first and only child at 46 and she is a fantastic mum with a very loved little girl.
Thanks. Being older I didn't absorb the comments. I don't regret waiting to have my kids. I'm sure you were great at 17 - I would never have coped.
Anyway, not to derail your thread, but really, just accept people are different & don't let it affect you.
I got married at 37. That was 14 years ago . Women are getting married later and having kids later. Who cares what judgy people say to you. They don't walk your path.
Did anyone say anything about you marrying "late"? I just don't understand why I'm getting so many comments about it and I'm wondering if it's just the town I live in.
Not a single person made a comment about it being later. It's probably likely just your town, you could be right. Xx
I'm 33, single and never married.... who knows and honestly who cares!! You do it when you're ready to, stuff everyone else! Do what makes you happy.
Oh I am happy, I was just curious if anyone else gets the comments.
Husband and I got married at 29 because his parents went through a bad divorce and he was scared of it happening to him. Had a baby at 31 and was told by MIL that it was too old. I did some calculations and guess who was 30 when she had a baby.