Why r some partners so dead set on making their partners ditch all their friends of th opperset sex....but keep up their own friends. I find that so hypocritical. iv lost so many male friends over th years once married or defectod because of it, with no reason behind it other than they don't like it. They will be more then happy to talk if we run into each other but once the partner is around, I'm a avoided. Some even admitting their partner is ether jealous or doesn't like friends of the opposite sex.
Maybe get to know these people before you judge. I can chat with them, have a drink at the pub with out attempting to shag them. One I loved like a brother. He was my rock. Known each other for years. A month In to a relationship, I get death stairs, and he's yanked away like a toddler in trouble.
Like, get over yaselves
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you're the common denominator.
maybe it's the way you act with them and carry yourself?
maybe you have a reputation?
your post also comes across rough and aggressive.
If someone ditches you when they get a new partner, they’re not your real friend. It’s understandable that an opposite sex friendship can cause issues over time and if that person is causing issues then it’s a no brainer - the relationship is going to win every time. To stay friends you need to know your place and have good boundaries and welcome the new girlfriend openly. And if you do that and your mate dumps you, then he’s just not your mate and move on and find real friends who wouldn’t do that.
You do sound aggressive and without knowing you or the dynamics, your 'friends' may have had an interest in you at one point and respect their partner enough to put up some boundaries. Which means, excluding you.
They shouldn't have to "get over it." What makes you think it's coming from they're partners specifically? If they're giving you the side eye "for no reason," and refuse to speak to you, what has your friend been saying?
What goes on between the sheets and behind closed doors isn't your business or theirs so try not to get upset and make new friends.
Only insecure kids act like this, and with the way you write, you're clearly just a kid yourself. It changes when you've all grown up. You'll see.