Do I have a right to be annoyed at the amount of crap my fiance buys?
He always complains he has no money, but then will go out and buy something we don't really need.
For example.
We really need a new lounge as ours is falling apart, and instead he bought a $2000 treadmill instead that he HAD to have, yet never uses.
Then today our neighbour is selling his house, and of course my man had to go over and have a look at everything he was selling/throwing out.
Now he's bought a $500 mulcher, a heap of fencing and a $2000 shipping container.
I want to pull my hair out in frustration at all the insane things he buys, yet he whinges when we spent more than $200 on groceries a week, says he has no money for my birthday/mothers day/Christmas etc.
I could go on and on about the ridiculous purchases he makes, but we would be here forever.
We have a family of 2 kids to look after, and all he's doing is buying stuff that only benefits himself.
Do I have a right to be annoyed?
Partner buying things we don't need constantly
Partner buying things we don't need constantly
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To be honest, it sort of sounds like abuse.
Hear me out.
My ex did this to me for years. Would go and buy the latest gaming console but when it came to me getting my hair cut, we wouldn’t have the money for it.
Once I left, it all came tumbling down. The financial abuse hit me square in the face. Think about it
Depends where the money is coming from. If it’s coming out of the family budget then you have every right to be annoyed. If your budget is set up so you each get an equal amount of “pocket money” each week/fortnight/month, and he’s buying it with HIS money, no you shouldn’t be annoyed.
Like the other commenter, my ex would constantly buy stuff worth hundreds if not thousands of dollars or loan money to people who were unlikely to repay it (without discussing it with me), then would complain if I spent $20 on myself or the kids. Only you know your relationship and your budget. If you think it could be financial abuse, speak to someone from a DV service for advice.
He’s shit with money. It’s really unlikely that will change, and it will only change if he wants to, and even then, like anyone, he’ll try some things and find it really hard, and not much will stick. So you have to decide can you live with this or not. You can make family budgets and savings accounts. But you won’t force him and you’ll be miserable trying, if he doesn’t want to think of his family first.