I am due to get married in 3 months, 2 weeks ago i found out my husband to be, created a fake fb profile using my photos. The photo that he used as the fb profile picture was a photo of me in sexy lingerie, (you could only see part of my face). I went ballistic when I found out and he assured me that there was no more photos of me and that it was a stupid mistake and he just wanted to see if he could make money off my photo. The fb page apparently had only been created for about a month, yet it had 4000 followers. Last week I found out that he had actually sent naked photos of me to 3 men that had requested more photos. These men then sent him photos back of them getting ‘excited’ off these photos. On that same day, i also found out that he was on a particular site, looking for men.
After much denying he admitted that he did all of the above and it was a stupid mistake and promises that he will never do it again and is so sorry for betraying my trust and respect and using my photos without my permission.
My question or even more so reassurance is, I cancelled the wedding and am leaving him. I’m doing the right thing, aren’t I? We have been together 5 years and have a house together
Do I leave him?
Do I leave him?
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Get out now!! This is suck. Who would do such a thing. This was your pre wedding warning to not go ahead with it. Take the sign and run! Stuff the house and everything else.
Yes absolutely you are doing the right thing. This is creepy and sly! Good for you, for knowing your worth and not accepting any less than you deserve.
Looking at men. He prob has grinder on his phone and I’d say he is hooking up behind your back.
Yup, right thing.
Get rid of the gay man/pimp.
You're only scratching the surface.
On and up lovely x
I didn't think of it at first, but agree with the others, go to the police.
He has committed several criminal offences in doing that. Report to the police asap so they can investigate. He's probably done this before and he will more than likely do it again.
Leave… don’t walk… run! This is fucked and he just puts it down to a “stupid mistake”? He doesn’t get it. He has broken the law and I’d be pursuing that with police too. Similar has happened to me and I did. He has shared your images and impersonated you… taking to men… they have done god knows what to your pictures and he is getting some sort of sick kick out of it. It’s strange as all hell. This is creepy and you can never gain back control of that photo again. It’s out there ☹️ 100% a dealbreaker for me personally.
Making money from it is also illegal. Not to mention the implications with the ato if he hasn't declared it as income. Good thing everything is digitised and traceable now. Op, contact the esafety commission. You can make a report online and they will investigate. They will also help to get it removed permanently off the Internet. He is in the same realm as rapists and pedophiles as far as I'm concerned. What a vile creature! I'm sorry this has happened to you x
He has also put her safety at risk of harassment and stalkers. I'd be LIVID!
I would absolutely dump him, and I'd insist that he give you his phone right now so you can delete every single photo that he has.
Or screenshot it all and report it to police - this is numerous criminal offences.
I’m so glad you’ve made the decision to leave! I can understand how it would be hard, but here’s your reassurance that you are doing the right thing!
A man who would share your images like that, for whatever twisted reason, does not love you. On top of all the other reasons, that it’s criminal, disgusting etc. above all else he did something to violate you and put you in potential danger, that is not love and not someone you should ever marry.
Stay strong hun you dodged a bullet!! xxx
Yep, this is so much disrespect, it will destroy you.
I’d actually have him charged!
Please go to the police. If you don’t you will regret it down the track. Your photos could be anywhere. Those people will then pass them on and so on. This is so sick. You need to go to police. Charge h and cut him free with no contact. Let police deal with it and sell your house asap. This makes me feel sick that a husband to be could actually do this. What else has he done that you don’t know. He prob has videos of you both without you knowing too.
I haven't read the comments, but are you okay?
This is a criminal offence and he could face upto 2 years in prison. I would definitely be going to the police and just have a chat even if you don't want to press charges. It is good to have people like this on record.
What if the next person he puts online is under age? Please have him charged.
Yes you are going the right thing. Cancel the wedding, leave hine, sell the house and find someone that value you more then the money they could make from your looks.
I have no issues with women making money off their looks, if they wish. But this was done without your knowledge. I would feel so violated and would be very be able to trust him again.
Do not doubt yourself, you DEFINITELY did the right thing. Thank god you found out now. ‘Losing’ 5yrs is better than your whole life. Never make decisions based on fear. Back yourself and move on 😊
Yes you're definitely doing the right thing! Nobody would tell you otherwise! Hope you are okay and wishing you all the best for the future. Please talk to someone if you need, reach out to those around you too!
First and foremost… are you ok? Go and see a counsellor or someone very close and trusted that you can talk to about this. You are going to need some support when the full weight of what he’s done sinks in.
If I could I’d give you the biggest hug.
Seek legal advice and report his behaviour to the police.
He has violated you, your trust and broken the law.
Sell the house.
Me, I’d smash his phone and computer, or disable both so he couldn’t do this again, but don’t do that, both will be needed by the authorities to have him charged.
I wish you the best of luck in the future.