Advice for a friend
Recently met a guy and they are doing a long distance relationship.
Her new partners ex partner recently had a death in the family so his ex has contacted him and asked him to attend the funeral.
While discussing with my friend he said he’s not sure if he wants to attend as he would be seeing his ex and her family and it will “bring up feelings and emotions” and he wants to move on with my friend and not think about the past.
She has given him her blessing to attend but what is everyone’s thoughts on this. Is he over his ex? They have been separated 7 months and my ex has been widowed for 3 years. I don’t want her to be heartbroken again
Advice for friend
Advice for friend
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How long were they together?
Are there kids involved?
How many times have they actually met?
No kids together.
Were together 6 years.
My friend has only been with him approximately 4 months. They do see each other very regularly however
No kids together.
Were together 6 years.
My friend has only been with him approximately 4 months. They do see each other very regularly however
7 months isn't long to get over a long-term relationship, however:
Pros: he's been upfront about the funeral, being long distance he could have just gone and not let her know.
Bringing up old feelings could be negative ones, not what you think.
I wouldn't write him off just yet.
If he talks about ex a lot, even negatively, that would be an indicator he isn't over her.
If he doesn't, I would proceed and see how things go.
Just make sure she takes her time and doesn't dive right in, be casual and enjoy the dating process.
You never know, this could be the second love of her life.
I think this is a sign and he should attend out of respect for the ex mother in law and his kids. It’s a funeral. He’s not going there to jump his ex. I actually think this says alot about this guy.
No kids then what is he worried about. He goes pays his respects and leaves. If he can’t do that then your friend needs to listen to her gut.
What ex mother-in-law and what kids?
Yeah it’s normal to decide nah, I’m moving forward not backwards. Don’t read into it and make it a problem.
What is the problem?
This is a good test of your friends relationship. It will either make them stronger as he doesn't have feeling for his ex or break them up as he does still have strong feelings for his ex and it is better that your friend finds this out now, rather than when she is more invested and in love