My son's dad has two job's one I know work's during the week and I think he work's for himself on the side.
He never seems to take time off to see his son though, last year he saw him like 3 time's and year before he used covid as an excuse a lot.
Our son is 10 in September, thinks Dad doesn't love him even though I say he's busy with work.
Also thinks Dad is a liar since last year couldn't see his son but was seeing his own Dad that weekend. Had said that his two with the new partner were sick with gastro... So I think our son is catching on.
Do I have to keep asking Dad to see his own son? Our agreement isn't working, twice a month.
It's endless texts and no replies.
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No of course not. He’s not your child. Keep notes and (it’s been long enough now) go back and change the plan and if you haven’t already change the child support to show how much you actually have him. You don’t have to have any contact with him at all.
Absolutely not. I'd send one last text saying "just a reminder, our agreement states you may see X on X dates & times. If you want to see him, let me know"
And then stop contacting him.
Maybe seek some therapy for your son to help him process having such a shitty dad, & just remind him constantly that he is loved & wanted.
It's 100% ok to say to your son "I don't know what Dad's doing, he might be very busy" and leave it at that.
But I also wouldn't mention anything about visits or dates to your son, so he doesn't get his hopes up.
And if Dad organises a visit, then cancels, ask him to ring your son & tell him himself, to keep you out of the crossfire.
No, stop chasing.
If he contacts you to arrange so be it but don't be the one, you are not responsible for that relationship. Yes I know it hurts kids, I've been there, however just reiterate all the people in life who are there for him and care for him.
Focus on plans for you and your son, don't change them if this man decides he can make time for his child. Keep a record but do not discuss with your child.