What to do

Anon Imperfect Mum

What to do

Separate for a year and half. Divorce papers signed by both but we are finding out our love for each other all over again. Its like we are a new couple. We grow apart and called it off he moved out but we still did everything together as we have kids together. We both never see other people. But now i ant sure what to do as we both love being around each other the kids love having he around now as his a different person from him use to be. He wants to withdraw the divorce papers but I just don't know I love him but is it the right thing to do ?

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Anon Imperfect Mum

Sorry we need more info to answer that.

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Anon Imperfect Mum

He became lazy and didn't do much around the house or with kids but since his been out by himself he has now learned that its not easy and helps and dose more family stuff

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Anon Imperfect Mum

I divorced my ex after 14 yrs for this exact shit. He kept doing better when I would bring it up, but he quickly slipped back into old patterns. I guarentee this will be him too. You're better off apart . You'll only develop a deep resentment once you see that this issue will yoyo and it won't change

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Anon Imperfect Mum

Thats what worries me that he will go back to his old ways but the last year has be great his a different person

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Anon Imperfect Mum

Withdraw it and see how you go living apart instead of together. I’d withdraw it if you still love him.

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Anon Imperfect Mum

Living apart is working well he gets his time i get mine

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Anon Imperfect Mum

Keep it that then. Withdraw the divorce, you can always do it later.

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Anon Imperfect Mum

You're both better as friends. To decide on divorce is pretty big, so those issues will only return. Stay apart. Stay as friends . U can still love someone but not be in a relationshipwith them. Know the difference. Youll be glad you did. Doesn't mean you belong together.

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Anon Imperfect Mum

He was pushed into doing the divorce by his family and mates we talked about getting one one day but his family made the appointment for him and got in his head that it was the right thing

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Anon Imperfect Mum

Withdraw them while you're still deciding. It doesn't mean you have to get back together.

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Anon Imperfect Mum

If it was all rosey why did you put the divorce forms in? Feels like a short term love bomb to me, that’s easy to do don’t give him too much credit. Does he take the kids and do it himself? Doubt it. So when you’re back living together what will change?

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Anon Imperfect Mum

It wasn't always rosey and yes he takes the kids by himself ever chance he gets he will take them and feed the shower and come back to my house and put them to bed or take them away on days trips by himself

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Anon Imperfect Mum

Are you both dating? It’s been a long time, just because neither have moved on doesn’t mean much tbh. But also why do paperwork if you’re not sure it’s over. Cancel the paperwork. Much easier to put it in when you’re sure. Going through it all while you’re dating seems ridiculous.

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Anon Imperfect Mum

Also you have to be separated for 12 months to be able to lodge it, and this would be why. So you haven’t been because you’re describing a couple/family dynamic, definitely not exes separated and moving on for the past 12 months.

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