Why I hate school mornings
I have 4 kids. A daughter in year 8 who has decided that not going to school is so much fun, 7th grader son who is drawn to trouble like a fly to poo with adhd and odd... my 5th grader has innatentive adhd and posible asd, and fads (my only step son) and my very hot tampered 3rd geader who is the Queen of the devas, she got that off me, karma right...Every school morning is hell. My 8th grader is ready in minutes but the worry is 'will she go to school today" is exhausting. 7th grader is hell... until meds kick in, it's abuse, screaming, and hurting siblings. 5th grader took 40 minutes just to put a shirt on today moves like a sloth, but them some days, hes ready befor we gwt out of bed... miss will often sit and fight with her shoes & socks, not wanting to wear her glasses, stomps when I say no to something, just like me ar her age. 3/5 days she's pretty good.
Don't get me wrong, I have very loving kids, but school mornings drive me nuts. By 830, I'm so mentally drained, I go back to bed once I drop them at school, and don't get up until 1030 to start my SAH mum routine
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This is me except my 3 kids aren’t that bad. I have one that doesn’t like school and it’s exhausting getting him there. I get him there then he won’t get out the car.Not always but that’s what we are going through at the moment. Getting him professional help also.
By the time I get home from school drop, I feel like a tornado has just gone through. I am so mentally exhausted. I Jump back into bed and fall asleep or just lay there trying to get myself together for the day.
I can’t imagine trying to go to work in the mornings after school drop. I hope once I get my son help then I can get back working.
I feel for you, it’s crap you have to go through this each day. It takes a toll on our health also. I don’t know what else to say other than, I understand you.
Some days I leave mine home because I just don’t have the energy to deal with it that morning.
You mean your housewife routine, your kids aren't actually there lol
I can't even......
She is a SAHM does this bother you.? She is a mum and she stays at home. Not really that hard to figure out before…:.
I can’t even 🤦🏼♀️
I guess someone like you is lucky to not know what it’s like to be a parent to kids with these conditions. Yes STAY AT HOME MUM! Do you know how much time kids have off of school because of these conditions and appointments. This doesn’t end. Where is the support for this poor mum? You wouldn’t last a day in her shoes obviously.
No, she means exactly what she wrote. Troll
So if my kids are 25 and 26, can I still call myself a SAHM lol?
No, I know nothing about having a child with a lifelong illness, spending half our life at the hospital.There's nothing wrong with being a housewife, don't be ashamed, own it.
I guess I'm just a bit jelly about the morning nap.
Call yourself what you like. Her kids are hardly adults and still require her care, even if when they are at school it doesn’t stop. This mum is struggling and that is all you have to say.?
I can't believe you guys haven't picked up on who this is....
She should be out looking for a job for when her partner goes to jail and ALL her step kids go back to their mother, instead of fighting for ten years for the DSP pension.
I don’t know who this person is or the story lol
I’m super jelly, there’s nothing as good as that daytime nap in an empty house. If she gets a job, it’ll end but for now, enjoy it! Maybe hearing these points of view will help you love school mornings a bit more - there’s two sides to them!
I have to do school drop off and be home by 8.00 am to start work.
I'm always tempted to have a morning nap but know there will be a million emails waiting for me and what if the boss messages me on teams lol.
I hate teams :(
Yep I do school drop off by 6.30 so I can be on the road to get to work in time. Getting them up and out earlier makes them extra cranky too. I hang on for that quiet drive to work, love it.
That would be so hard, I once moved and had to leave really early, but it was only for a term.
We were all so grumpy all the time, hats off to you for doing it long term.
Play that music, enjoy your drive, your only peace for the day.
But do you feel guilty for going back to bed for two hours? Why? You do the morning shitshow, you rest. You handle the docs. You rest. they come home, you do the evening shit show. Don’t feel guilty for resting in a quiet house and enjoying your alone time.
This 🙌Too many mothers are made to feel guilty for taking a rest. Being a parent is tough and especially with kids with special needs. We need to rest while we can and not feel guilty for it. If we need it, then we need it.
Have you thought about going back to work? That might force more routine in the house in the morning :)
I have a 12yo and 14yo, both with ADHD ODD ASD. I find mornings awful! I have chronic fatigue syndrome so I have a rest after I do the morning battle. Please be kind to yourself. It’s really hard!
I have one child to get out the door and I struggle. We have a routine and she helped set up the routine and yet every morning it’s a fight. She’s an alphabet kid (adhd,asd level 2 and odd) and we’re waiting for therapies to start but I honestly feel like I’m drowning most days with her. The worst part is as soon as she leaves she’s a whole different kid. So everyone thinks I’m just being a drama queen who can’t cope.
As soon as my baby goes for a nap I crawl in to bed and sleep till he wakes up and then we start our day till she comes home and the fights start again. Raising kids with extra needs is hard, it’s thankless and it sometimes plain old sucks. Raising teenagers also sometimes sucks. You’re allowed to not like every aspect of parenting and it doesn’t make you ungrateful for not liking it. I love my kids, love parenting but some days it’s a lot.