Did you go to extra effort to attract a fling or
partner after divorce? Did you feel you had to?
I havent had the post divorce glow up that everyone seems to go through. Im wondering how much effort post divorce you went to
I feel like that people seem to be able to find a partner fairly easy after divorce even if just a fling. I haven't even found that after six years. I have tried dating apps.
I just wonder if its because Im not putting enough time and money into my looks
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I just made it clear that I was looking for a fling, there are plenty of men who are looking for a post divorce fling.
You just look for those profiles.
But yeah you do have to turn up looking like you have made an effort. Have a couple of date night outfits, show off your best features.
Having some flirting game will let guys know you are open for a fling. If your body language isn’t open and responsive nothing will happen.
It’s not about putting money into looks. I realised it is just when you’re ready. You can “look great” etc but for me it’s like I had an unavailable sign on my forehead. I felt as if my life shouldn’t stop but I just wasn’t truly ready. I was single for 6.5 years when I met my now partner. As soon as I was “ready” I got a really decent amount of interest. It’s important to take the time to understand what I needed from a relationship.
Time.
Don’t be so rushed. Your ‘time’ will arrive.
7 years, a few dates & that’s it. Barely met anyone I’m attracted to/interested in. I don’t know where they all find them? I do think some grab the first person who comes along.