I'm unsure if this person is in The IM community so ill just use them as i refer to this person and use as much information as i can without them realising and making this any worse than it already is.
This person and i work for my family member. I have recently found out that they constantly bad mouth my work performance. As well as email our boss about certain unnecessary garbage. Our boss has not replied and as far as i'm aware my work performance is fine. Now i know i work hard, and go overboard with what is required of me. I only try my best.
This person has never talked to me about any of their concerns, just bad mouthed me to another family member. This person is in their late 50s so i'm unsure why they are being like this.
In our work environment they are nice to me, even friendly. Very Competitive for no reason but friendly.
This has caused me to feel extremely anxious when it comes to work when i use to love working. I still do just anxious while at work making sure i am perfect while doing what i need to. Making no mistakes, even little mistakes.
Writing all this out it seems ridiculous but it has caused tension with the other family member they have bad mouthed me to as this person is married to my manager.
My boss and manager have talked multiple times about this person's work performance as it isn't fantastic. They have tried talking with them but they do not listen. About anything and often times have tried to be boss.... Do i keep ignoring it? Up my antidepressant medication? I'm so stressed and nervous.
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It sounds like she's trying to drag you down to make herself look good. If management are aware and not falling for it I would have a meeting with them to discuss her behaviour and you don't feel comfortable working with her anymore.
I didnt even think of that. Thank you i will
The problem with small family business - it all goes around. The person told needed to advise colleague to speak to you directly and sort it out between you. Gossiping to you about what’s being said privately is also winding things up. So what are you supposed to do?
Also go to her and speak directly. If you can’t do that, make a meeting and go to your boss. But it actually doesn’t sound like your boss is going to offer solutions , just bitch and keep going back and forth. It won’t help either of you. Sit down and speak, looking for a solution so you’re both happy at work.
She most feel insecure about something. I think you should confront her. Not bring up anyone else but , say to her I have noticed that you are being a little competitive or you seem annoyed at my work, what’s wrong? Apart from that just ignore her if you can’t confront her or leave. Don’t up your antidepressant tackle it head on. Don’t let her affect your mental health.
But phrase it with your I statements, so it’s more constructive and less confrontational.
‘When you did A, it B (impact on you/your ability to do your job).