My partner moved in about 6 months ago, along with his 3 cats.
One of his cats who is 21 (still a kitten at heart.
(which did it at his place too apparently) wees and poos everywhere apart from the cat litter.
I've got bedrooms and lounge rooms that no matter what I've done, I cannot get the smell out of it, even had it professionally cleaned.
I've blocked of all carpet areas so the cat can't get in there.
However with a young child, I can't keep his room blocked off at night.
I'm finding the cat is weeing in other places such as tiled areas, under the dining table, in the pantry, bathroom if door is left open..
I'm tired of doing it, tired of myself and kids stepping in it, tired of the house smelling, and I'm facing the cost of replacing carpet in 3 rooms, which I cannot afford. I'm at a point where the main room smells to much to sleep in. I'm embarrassed to have people over due to it.
I've had the cat vet checked, twice, at different vets. No medical issues. Just behaviour.
Tired multiple things, extra and different types of litter trays, different litter, pee mats etc.
My partner shrugs it off, doesn't help clean and doesn't see the issue. Any advice or ideas?
Thanks.
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I would be telling him he needs to get the cat out but that's me! I do know what its like having a cat that pees everywhere, it really stinks! I bought Natures Miracle enzyme cleaner from the pet shop it is a spray thats specifically for urine, I used it for dog pee and it works. Get him to buy it
It's 21, sounds like its incontinent, that's usually the way it goes with animals unfortunately.
If I had such a disrespectful, lazy partner, I would reconsider the relationship.
Let him and his cat go live elsewhere, you can still date him if you want, although this would turn me off him altogether.
It’s time to have the cat put down. This behaviour from the cat (and your partner) cannot continue.
Yer get rid of you partner. Filthy and he’s disrespectful to you, for not doing anything about it. Tell him the cats have to go & if he doesn’t like it then he goes with them.
He’s moved in with his cats and won’t clean up after them? Is he not bothering because you do it for him? Who cleaned up after them before you? He sounds extremely lazy and disrespectful to you and your children.
Nah, it's unhygienic to expect your kids to live like this - and he doesn't care about the damage to your house? Looks like he's back in the renting pool.
A cat run? I have to say I agree it’s strange he’s moved in and let his cat do this at all but also continue to do it all over your house.
Was the cat like this while it was living at his place? At 21, it sounds like the move to yours has stressed it out . It's an old cat and probably doesn't have long to live. At 21 I find it hard to believe no vet has found a problem or at least suggested the kindest thing to do is to put it down. Go to another vet. And make him pay ! It's not your cost. He has two other cats that are obviously fine . This is an old age issue .
Forget the cat for a second… your partner needs to correct this himself and now. I’d set expectations and let him know that any damages the cat has caused will be for him to handle. It isn’t you that has to replace anything. His cat he should. If he has an issue with it he can leave and take the cats.
Meeow 🙀 this would be a dealer breaker for me. Where is his respect for you and your home?
You can buy cat diapers - I'd make him buy them and make him change them!!
I'd absolutely be making him clean it up, and presenting him with the cost of professionally cleaning all the carpets.
Does he have kids? It's guite likely this is a cat's behavioural response to moving in with children.
The cat is an old man, and kids are noisy, touchy, and annoying for a grumpy old bugger.
Also, if your partner refuses to address the problem, refuses to clean it up and shrugs it off - I have to say this is a very clear show of his disrespect for you and your home. I'd be thinking very hard about tossing him out as well.
You have a partner problem.
A good partner would be really upset that your house was being trashed and change the situation.
It’s not your job to fix his problems (take cat to the vet etc).
I have chosen to take on a cat like your partners (she just can not manage a litter box, comes from a trauma background). But I set my life up to manage it. No carpet, easy clean floors and not going to move anywhere that wouldn’t work for her.
Did he not discuss this issue before he moved in and strategies?
Sounds like he needs to step up and solve the issue or get out!
Tell him he needs to deal with it or he can find somewhere else to live with his 3 cats.
It sounds like it’s a behavioural issue, rather than old age. Your partner has most likely never done anything to ensure the cat only uses the litter box so now it thinks it can do its business anywhere. What are the other two cats like? I’d be telling him to start cleaning up after his cats and showing some respect for everyone living there, or he can take the cats and move out. I wouldn’t have let him move in with me, knowing he let his cats treat his whole house like a bathroom and he didn’t clean it up. But that’s me.
This is definitely about old age. Cats rarely piss outside their litter boxes unless they're unwell.
Does your partner clean the cat litter box? Some cats will do this when their tray is dirty. It is recommended they are cleaned everyday and changed every 2-3 days, depending on mess. Maybe that is the issue for the cat? Definitely agree on the old age of the cat, but it may also be the litter box not being clean. It's your partners cat tho, so e really should be the one to clean and pay for any damage the cat has done.
Go to Petbarn and buy a spray called Nature's Miracle. It's AMAZING
It's a 21 year old cat. Unfortunately nothing can be done. Cats are normally very hygienic, could it be something to do with age?
Speak with your partner and ask him to cover the costs of recarpeting the house. Because he should be respectful to you, your family and your house.
I know you said no very can find anything, but I have a cat who (when stressed) gets a uti and wees everywhere! Could this be a problem?
I had an 18yo cat and the love I had for this car was immense. Please (as someone stated above) don't ask this him to put his cat down.