For those of you who left your husbands or long term partners, how long did it take you to make that decision? Was there a determining factor or was it more "enough is enough"?
For those of you who left your husbands or long term partners, how long did it take you to make that decision? Was there a determining factor or was it more "enough is enough"?
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When he used the money I had set aside for food and spent it on weed and I had to go to the Salvation Army to get food vouchers so our child would have food. That was the last straw.
It's usually a multiple factor of things over a long period of time . Very rarely it's just one reason .
I was at rock bottom and actually started having intrusive thoughts about ways out. I got to the point where I thought if I leave I may pass but if I stay I am definitely going to. Do not leave it for as long as I did.
The fact that you are even asking this question means you know you are somewhere you do not want to be 💗
I left when he offered to put a bullet in my head when I wldnt deposit my insurance claim into his account. The attempts to control me financially continue 10 years later, via Child Support (40k debt).
It took for him to do some really traumatic things for me to decide enough was enough. In hindsight, I questioned it for years before. I lived in a constant space of "when is enough, enough?"
I should've left after 3 months of questioning that
We he referred to me as the Kings Bitch.
Add the fact he said this in front of our child... said he chooses alcohol over us. Said if I locked the laundry door so he couldn't get to the drinks at a party because he wouldn't stop drinking then I could leave. When he would rather open a beer at the park during a visit with his baby and not interact with him. Complained about me being lazy while sick with PND and working. Him not helping with the baby and not caring when I disappeared one night while trying get the baby off to sleep by driving the car saying his sleep was more important.
When they are selfish and expect you to drop everything and control you is when you need to leave.