I'm a single mum of 4. 2 in high, and 2 in primary. My eldest 2 are really doing my head in. Every day I sit by the phone waiting for that phone to wring guessing which kid did what. I don't know weather to cry or laugh at this. Both were school captains in year 6, citizen of the year for both Jr and senior primary. Perfect attendance, great comments on report cards .. I just feel like an utter failure. Mental health is in the toilet, while I sit and rember what I put my single mother through... is this karma? Dad is useless, he's living off his drug money supplied by the government with out a care in the world. Some times I just want to run away. How can 2 little people cause so much stress?
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Is it like bad things you’re being called for ? Or is the school just super strict?
Are there consequences? Is it legal/illegal?
Just know you’re not alone. Reach out and seek support with some local groups that can help with the behaviour whether it be mental health support for you or for them.
Skipping classes, sneaking out of school, walking out of class. Being verbally abusive to staff, bullying students, vandalism, smoking in toilets.... the list goes on. School is far from strict, infact they are too lenient. One was finally suspended today after being on a "behaviour contract" and not following it. The other was placed on one yesterday, for the same things. They both ditched all their friends when they started and made new friends, who tend to make bad choices. I'm not blaming these kids, but they all encourage each other to join in on the chaos.
Is there a better school? I know their options may be limited but as teens the environment has so much influence, especially as they are trying to figure out their own identity. Our peers become more important at this age and if they are crappy influences then it's not ideal 😞
This isn't about you and your karma.
Sounds like they've had a rough start to life with a junkie father.
Have they had any form of counselling?
Until you have a handle on it, I don't think they should be allowed at school, if they are going to bully other kids.
That stuff permanently scars and ruins a child's school life.
Distance ed or homeschooling I think for now and a psychologist.
Yes their father is a big trigger for tham. We did councelling, they refuse to go, or when they do, they refuse to talk. Even tried to have them go together.
In terms of distance education, honestly, I don't have the education or understanding to teach them. It would also require me to leave work which i cant afford to do. I get $15 a month in child support as dad is homeless (counch surfing) and my kids are too old for single parent pension, and job seeker and family payment just isnt enough to live off.
Yep, my two eldest are giving me a hard time too. It does get easier again. I thought those beautiful people were lost forever but they come back. Try not to say anything you will regret later. Remain consistent, love them anyway and hold on for the ride.