How do I stop caring?

Anon Imperfect Mum

How do I stop caring?

How do I stop caring what people think? How do I stop feeling absolutely devastated when I find out I haven't been invited to a social gathering or my son hasn't been included? How do I stop worrying that I've said the wrong thing or annoyed someone every time I leave a social gathering?

I'm in my early 40's and should no better. I have good friendships and a loving family but my heart literally drops any time I see friends or people I know tagged together on social media, or find out they have done something without me. Why wasn't I invited? Why wasn't my son included? Even if it's people I don't particularly like I still feel that overwhelming rejection. I'm a smart person, I know these thoughts aren't rational, but I can't help them. How do I help them? How do I stop feeling this way? It's exhausting 😪

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Anon Imperfect Mum

Social anxiety? Have you spoken to a psychologist about it?

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Anon Imperfect Mum

I feel this way as well, I’ve found mine comes from a lot of trauma and hurt from people that I once trusted or considered a friend/family member.

I agree it is exhausting and it’s a really hurtful place to be sitting in most of the time.

Therapy seems to be the only option moving forward.

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Anon Imperfect Mum

I would unfollow anyone that you feel leaves you out or triggers this feeling. If that doesn’t work I find anxiety medication really helps me to stop worrying about things.

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