I’ve been with my husband for 6 years. He is an alcoholic and weed user.There have been issues in the past with catching him on dating sites etc.We worked through them.
He started a new job two months ago at a 24/h service station. Mainly night shift by himself,occasional day shift with one or two others.
One of the first day shifts,he comes home and I ask how it was etc.He said good and that I would get along well with **** as she is just like me and doesn’t give a **** what people think and tells you how it is.
He has randomly mentioned her a few times but they don’t work together that much really.
Well two nights ago I made him sit and talk to me as things have been distant and distracted on his part.I’d tried several times to talk to him but he would ignore it or get drunk and I would stay away.
During this conversation he said that
“oh Ive told **** all about you and everything that’s been going on”
I said why the hell are you talking all about me and our relationship to this girl(early 20s if that,he is 35,I’m 38) and what advice could she possibly give me on life and relationships when I’m twice her age?And why are you going to her to talk about private things when you should be coming to me to talk about it etc.
He was like oh no it’s not like that blah blah blah.
I was pissed.
Then he says “I think you two need to meet”
I asked why?He said”I just think it would be a good idea and you both need to meet”
So yesterday my husband and I went into his work. I felt like he didn’t really want to and was giving off a strange vibe as she was there working the register.It was like a little kid being near their crush or favourite celebrity.She kept looking up at us several times before we approached the register.
We paid and then I looked at hubby and said “is this ****? He stammers “oh yeah”
I say”aren’t you going to introduce us?”
He said “oh I thought you two already knew each other.”
I looked at her and said no and she shook her head no but didn’t really say anything.
I looked at her and said hubby told me last night he has been telling you all about me and our relationship and how he said we should meet and you wanted to meet me because things seem mysterious.
Once again she never really responded but hubby denied having said anything like that at all.
I had a few choice words and we left.
In the car he said that was not cool and I said “maybe not but I don’t give a s*** remember..just like you said she was like too.You lied about what you said and you should come to me to talk and sort our relationship out not go to her.
He said “oh I’ll just quit and won’t go back to work”
I said” why are you guilty and has something else happed that your hiding?”
He said no.
How would you ladies feel?React?Move forward.
Maybe ask your husbands and get a males opinion?
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Farking hell what a situation. My instinct is to tell u to talk to your hubby but doesn't sound like he will be honest with u anyway.
What's you gut telling you?
It doesn't seem that anything was going on with these two other than him probably having a whinge about you but that's still a bit outta line.
If it was me I would probably go back to his work without him and when she's working to scope out the vibe with her and go from there
She is quite young and he shouldn't be talking to her about things.
She also is clearly uncomfortable.
He's got a crush on a kid and the kid doesn't like it.
Well I was out at the first paragraph. Six years of your life already? Then you go on to tell what that’s actually like, and, well, how is it?
Who cares about the woman, isn't the alcoholic and weed user enough?
Yuk, why are you with him?
Why do women have such low standards and actually get jealous over these losers?
That poor girl having a creepy older guy talking about his relationship problems. She definitely wouldn’t be getting paid enough to deal with that. He’s putting her in a very awkward position- tell him he’s a grown man and to keep it professional 🤦🏻♀️
So he is an alcoholic and weed user and now you have other women drama.
What is your exit strategy? Why are you willing to accept one of these dramas let alone 3. Do some work on yourself, he isn’t worth the drama.
He is an alcoholic, had a substance addiction problem, no value for employment and no career, and you can't trust him, what is there going for him?