What to do? Need advice plz

Anon Imperfect Mum

What to do? Need advice plz

Hello, I've been with with my partner for 13years, 3 beautiful children together, everything well I thought everything was going great in the little life we have made together. Today our youngest was watching my partners phones and got hold of it and pressed button without anyone looking, as I turned around and got the phone off of our youngest a message app of some sort was open and there on the screen was a dick picture of my partner on the screen, long story short he messaged this lady over the net, sent dick pics and received vag pics and boob pics. Aleast 3 pictures each. I was out of town when he happened 😳
I conforted my partner and told me he is very sorry and wants to work us out, he made a huge stuff up and was just horny but not an excuse at all in my eyes. Cause we have a playful nature towards eachother to spice up our sex life.😔 He wishes to build my trust again even if it means moving to a different room in
the house. He has expressed being sorry and still loves me. I'm just beyond shocked of how he could do su things.

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Anon Imperfect Mum

Yuk what’s a disrespectful pig! If I ever found out my partner was going this, I wouldn’t be with him. How could someone that is married with kids, send another woman a photo of his dick! At what point does he think about his wife and kids and that he enough to stop him. Also if you were out of town, why couldn’t he just send them to you. This is only what you found in his phone just remember that. Then there is the things that have been deleted or what you didn’t find. I wouldn’t never trust him again. One I think dick pics are Grose and to do that when you are married with kids. He is only sorry he got caught.

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Anon Imperfect Mum

You don’t do that behind the back of someone that you claim to love. All just meaningless words after the act.

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Anon Imperfect Mum

He'll tell you whatever he has to in order to keep his life comfortable.
If you stay he doesn't have to organise moving out, separation, property settlement, sharing the kids, child support...
What you accept right now will shape what's acceptable going forward.
For me, it'd be a hard no. I've been horny when my partner wasn't home and didn't even consider sending vag pics to anyone.
He has hands. He could have sorted himself out solo.

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Anon Imperfect Mum

You need to move on dear sister.
He’s sorry only because he was found out.
How long has this been going on?
And with other women?
Would he have told you?
Would he have stopped?
Has he stopped?
Do you deserve this?
What do you want in a quality life partner?
What example is this for your dear children?
You definitely WILL NOT get an honest answer from him but these are the questions you need to be asking yourself.
Please value yourself and prepare to leave.
His behaviour is complete and utter filth and degrade to you, women and himself.
You must look in the mirror dear sister and say “I DESERVE BETTER!” ❤️
Lots of courage and drive your way to move on. X

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Anon Imperfect Mum

Also him moving to a different room in the house only means his deviant behaviours will continue.
Absolutely 100%!!

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