I'm sitting up in the lounge, avoiding going to bed. My partner of 10 years, is expecting a BJ, and I really don't want too.
Our sex life has not been great for a few years now. I take meds that affect my sex drive. Yes, we dont have sex near as much as ether of us would like, but it's not something I can force myself to do all the time, just to keep him happy.
Other then my LSD, another reason for lack of sex, is the minimal intimacy behind it on his part. I feel it's very one sided. I'm not some porn star who can contort into all sorts of twisted shapes, and inhail a D with out throwing up. I would like to enjoy the moment too, I'd like to climax. I don't enjoy having my hair pulled, chocking on D, having a hand push head down, my ass slapped, or having my spine bent out of shape while he looks at the back of my head. I honestly feel like a cum rag. I also can not remember the last time he, un prompted, told me he loved me. He never tells me I look nice, other then "what are u all dressed up for", and I never get complimented.... honestly, all I hear about is what I'm doing wrong. I'm forever telling him how much I love him, how sexy I think he is, how good he looks, how much I appreciate what he does for our family.
Before he had a shower for bed, he went on about how I was going to "suck his D" until he C in my mouth. I was blunt and told him I'd like to get off too, where's my orgazum......? His reply...!
"You stay home and beat off all day (masterbate) while im at work, so it's only fair I get a BJ". HONESTLY, I can not remember the last time I got myself off. I can't remember the last time I enjoyed sex, I can't remember the last time sex was initiated by him in a loving manner. If I initiate sex, it's always with a loving touch and intimacy.
We used to have great sex. My SD was quite high, and we were so in sink with each other. It was full of passion, he knew what I liked, and I knew what he liked. It was an equally enjoyable moment for us both. Now, well......... I feel like a sex toy and nothing more.
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This is alarming… the way he is talking to you is so degrading. Even setting that aside I think you need help with how he makes you feel. You aren’t there as some play thing for him. This is a really horrible dynamic and it’s not a functional relationship. He isn’t entitled to your body. He isn’t even your husband from what I am reading. Please protect yourself and know you deserve better.
I'd tell him to fk right off with his bj, and then fk right off with his suitcases if he keeps going.
He treats you shit, not just sexually, but in general.
What do you even get out of this relationship??
Yuk, of course you’re not into it. Who would be?!
You are being degreased, while you are building him up? No wonder you feel terrible. He is a selfish pig. Also I never ever ever do anything that I do not want to do. I certainly wouldn’t given my husband a BJ ever again if he spoke to me like that. You need to be strong here, use your voice and stand up to him. Don’t be afraid to say No! If my husband choked me and pulled my hair, id be gone. There is a way to do these things calmly and respectively. He sounds like he treats you as a possession. Maybe he watches too much porn & expects this of you. Fancy telling you that you get off at home. Wtf! Who says that. I couldn’t put up with some one like this ever.
Degraded
Without the meds you still wouldn't be attracted to this pig. You COULDN'T be.
Ask yourself what you're getting out of this relationship. Now ask yourself if it's worth your dignity. Be honest.
Fact is no-one would choose this, if he was like this at the start would you have stuck around for 1 year let alone 10?
What's the difference?
Ewww , what a fucking pig of the highest disrespect. I'd mop this cunt on the floor like he's the cum rag if he were my partner . He'd be too scared to push me this far . Nothing makes me more sick than sexually entitled rapey little fuckers like this. What a vile grub .
And let me guess, you not wanting to have sex with someone who degrades you and makes you feel like a piece of meat is all your fault?
Assuming you have kids, are you expected to carry the majority if not all of the load at home? Does he get his free time at your expense? Fuck that.
You are a human being who deserves to be loved, respected and shown that you are the amazing woman that you are.
Please stop putting up with his shit. If he can't respect you, you need to seriously rethink your entire relationship.
YOU DESERVE BETTER.
Sometimes I feel the same as you. My other half isn't like yours but he will do things like calling my body his. He thinks he has the right to touch me even if I don't want him to. It makes me uncomfortable and is pushing me away.
I know it is easy to say leave but it is hard to do. I want to leave but I don't know if I can.
The real question is - it's taken you 10 yrs to get to this point, do you want the next 10 yrs like this?