Would you inform the school that your own child is vaping with several other kids in the toilets at school.?
Our 13yo is on probation already, they think it's a big joke, and our 12yo has behavural issues but has been so good at school these past 18 mths.
We have a list of names, who brings what and we are searching our kids bedrooms, as we know kids will blame everything on their friends to avoid being in trouble. An aquantce daughter is also on the list, so iv informed her just now so she can deal with it on her end, told her we are undicided on informing the school.
How would you deal with this. We have been having alot of issues with our 13yo th past 12months, and we are very over the dishonesty and their lack of respect
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On probation legally or with school?
I would inform school of my own child I wouldn’t name names unless you want them separated and are monitoring and separating them out of school already.
Otherwise you’re just dropping your child in it hoping someone else solves it, you’ll lose any power you hold.
I agree plus i imagine she vapes more out of school than in school.
Some parents expect schools to fix all their children's behavioural issues but out of 24 hours, they are only there 6 hours a day, five days a week, 40 weeks of the year.
We have them by far the majority of the time.
It is really up to us to fix their behavioural issues.
We should be sending them to high school, ready to learn.
Primary school is a little harder, they are still learning what's acceptable.
When I got caught smoking in the 90s, my parents didn't even consider telling the school, they dealt with it.
They saw me as their problem, not the schools.
They are in probation qt school. As for vaping out of school, yes, it's a very high possibility, even though theu cone right home after school and lock themselves in their room
And then vape out the window, more than likely
I would ring the school. My daughter tells me about all the girls age 13 who vape in breaks. Get suspended and back doing it again. Come down hard on your kids and rip them out of the school if it continues.
Ring anonymously give all the names including your kids and don’t give any details. Tell them you don’t want your child bashed and that all these kids need to be deal with. Get a friend to ring so they don’t recognise your voice. You can’t risk your kids getting turned on by the whole shcool.
She already told another parent so they already know who it is
Wait a few weeks then and let her think you have forgotten about it. Then make the call. They will think it’s the other parent maybe. Either way the school needs to come down hard on this vaping. It should be one at a time in the toilets. My daughter tells me the vapers all go in one cubicle together most times.
The problem is that it's usually not just the vaping, a lot of the time the kids who are vaping also develop this intimidating persona and at worst they start exhibiting violent behaviour.
I have two teenagers that come home daily busting to go to the toilet because if they try to go at school they get threatened by a big bunch of vapers. Some kids they know have been less lucky because they've actually been physically assaulted. Just for trying to pee between classes....
Vaping is a huge problem across most high schools, one that schools are really struggling to take control of. So if you have information about it, I feel like you're obligated to share it with the school.
Update.
On walking the younger kids to school, at the bus stop, several cartridges are all smashed up on the ground. Guess the kids told their mates
After going to school with someone whose parents did this to him, please don’t do it. He was bullied and ridiculed to the point that he had to repeat the grade.
Only you can deal with the dishonesty and disrespect at home, that’s not the schools problem.
The school should be cracking down on all the kids vaping. Where we live the toilets are only opened with a key now that you get from the front office.
Yes I would and I did.
We caught it early, had names etc of everyone involved and I have zero regrets.
They suffered some social consequences which actually worked out well because they stopped hanging out with other young criminals in the making (and yes vaping and supplying vapes to others is illegal).
I gave the school all the names and evidence and then let them deal with it while I supported my teen through the consequences of their poor decision making.