My daughter is 17 nearly 18 she’s choosing to hang out with a few people who’s morals are questionable to say the least one is a pot addicted.
She’s interested in a boy that is friends with them .
Do I have a right and a say to nit let her hang out with them ?
Yes I’m judging this boy by who he hangs out with .
I know if anything becomes of my daughter and this boy she will be hanging with them a lot more.
I just want her to concentrate on year 12 and not get mixed up with the wrong people but she’s not listening!
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Yes sit her down nicely and tell her your concerns. While she is living under your roof, I’d be putting my foot down. Can you get her involved in some activities or work after school.
You have to remember every day at school your daughter has been exposed to "bad " kids, but she has chosen to be a good kid.
By 17, you have to let her make her own decisions, have faith in your parenting and be there to pick up the pieces.
Second year of uni I went out with a stoner, but broke it off after 6 months because he never had any money and only cared about getting high.
Have some faith.
You won’t win that battle. It will just push her into lying about who she is with and sneaking around and she is almost 18.
Keep the same rules as before.
This won’t have been her first exposure to pot smokers etc. and just because she hangs out with a boy who is friends with them it doesn’t mean at 18 she will mess up her life.
She’s almost 18 and if it is a mistake, she needs to learn that in the life lesson way, not in a mum told me off way.
She is almost 18, she needs to be in full control of her decisions. As adults we should be able to be friends with a broad range of people with different morals and be able to hold our own. This is a life lesson and quality. Teach her about drug use and why you don't like it but you can't control her at this age.
Of course you can insist. You won't win, though. It'll just push her further towards the boy & into trying drugs just to spite you.
I dated an older, heavy duty pot smoker (& other things probably) in high school. All it did was make me less inclined to touch any drugs at all. I saw the reality of the lifestyle & and wasn't interested - I didn't want that life. So your daughter won't necessarily get drawn in. Plus, I didn't have the kind of support you offer her. My parents couldnt've given a rip where I was or what I was doing.
My friend who had parents who tried to control her friendships & met these guys & went full on into drugs. Ended up in jail.
So open communication and let her know concerns but also show trust.