Hi ladies, after a bit of advice, our good friends husband has just sent me a text saying he has a crush on me, he had been drinking when he sent it as we had been there earlier in the day.
I have not responded, as I have no idea what to say. I'm not interested at all and his wife is my best friend and him and hubby are friends as well.
How do I approach this without totally ruining our friendships.
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Shut that shit down clearly. Either ‘you’re drunk’ no laughing though. Or just ‘over the line, you’ll regret saying things like that when you’re sober’ then no reply after.
If he’ll send it to you sure as shit he sends it to other women too. I’d let hubby know now and let your best friend know when you next see her. Show it to her, let her lead the way and forget it or laugh it off whatever she wants, but she deserves to know and you know it will come back on you down the line if she finds out there’s things you knew but didn’t tell her.
Send back, "let's forget you ever sent this. Delete it."
It could have been her testing you
Message back and say what the hell. Lisa is my best friend and alcohol or not, this is disrespectful and don’t ever send me a message this like again else I will tell her. Alcohol is just an excuse. What a dog! Keep screen shots incase this ever turns on you. Or catch up with her and show her. Either way shut it down or show your Husband.
If my Husband sent this to my best friend, I would want her to tell me. Please arrange to see her and show her. Then it’s up to her to do what she wants with the info. What a sleeze. Tell your husband too. Don’t hide this from him or her.
Some dirty dogs like to use alcohol as an excuse. You need to show her because he prob sends these to others too. What is he like as a person? Do you think he would have taken this further if you responded? Is he usually a jerk? This isn’t cool and alcohol is certainly no excuse. He is obviously wanting an affair with someone and I think she needs to know and so does your husband. My friends partner cracked on to me once and I told her he what he did. Turns out she knew what he’s like because he cracked on to.quite a few of her friends.they ended up splitting up when he had an affair.
I'd write back saying "This is extremely inappropriate and disrespectful. Do not send me messages like this again".
Then screen shot his initial message and your reply, then show them to your friend. This douche lord has directly implicated you in this so you're best off being forthcoming.
Prepare yourself for the possibility that she may not take ot well though.
A crush? I've only heard grown men use that kind of language when they were joking or being facetious. What exactly did the text say?
You must be 12? Crush has been common language for me and I was born in 1980 and even my parents use it. The OP has used it correctly.
Lol I thought the same, should read, “BFs husband is a sly, horny dog”
Same age as you. But the word crush makes me think of a 11 year old, not an adult? I use the word crush too, but not seriously... just tongue in cheek... hence querying the actual wording of the text.
Same, crush is a very immature word, what adult uses it?
Strange.
Tell. Your. Husband!!!!!
A friend has just been in a similar situation, she ignored it & didn't tell her hubby, more texts came in later and hubby found them and holy shit it blew up.
As to your friend - I would want to know.
It may well affect your friendship, which is super sad; but if she already suspects he's doing this shit (and she probably does suspect it), and finds out later you knew and didn't say anything, then game over.
If he's got the balls to send this to you, knowing you're friends with his wife, then he's probably tried his luck with others before.
Tell your friend. But pull her aside and tell her in private. Last time a friend told me stuff she told me in front of everyone including my (now) ex. It ruined our friendship. Not for what she told me, but because of the lack of respect she had by telling me in front of everyone.
I wouldn’t reply to his message. I’d just, like I said - pull her aside and have a word in private.