How do I pull myself through! I’ve lost myself I’ve lost who I am!
My eldest child is full of so much narcissistic behaviours has very little empathy and has to control.
My middle child as autism and the last few nights I’ve had to chase home around the neighbourhood.
I find it hard when my partner goes away for the weekend or does his own thing: 1, we have lived in each others pockets since July as he has workplace injury and I had knee surgery. (Gone wrong). My past with my exes is that I’ve always been cheated on when they went away so I over think big time.
He struggles with the eldest and her traits like I do big time.
But I am struggling so so much I give so much love to all and get little in return.
I don’t even know what I’m asking really
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Sorry where and why does he go away for weekends? If you’re giving so much to him and getting little in return, boot him. That’s one stress you don’t need!
How old are your kids? What do you do for yourself? What do you enjoy doing?
He goes away flying not all the time once a month if that hadn’t done it for last 12months first time last week end and he took the middle child asd with him.
He helps alot with them it’s more when it comes to been shown love sometimes there’s lots other time there very little.
Kids are 10,9&5.
I not long moved states to join him so really gave t found what I enjoy here yet.
Is the eldest child in any type of therapy for the behavioural concerns you’ve raised? If not perhaps it’s time to look at that and getting them engaged with it the best you can. It will take time. Do they have any diagnosis or suspicions of needing a diagnosis? Look into this as a possible reason for the behaviour traits.
Your child is autism, do they have an NDIS plan? If not look into getting a plan and possible support worker to assist with behaviour management and support. If they have one, what does the funding look like and is that working for you and the child? Maybe you need a review and a new plan that allows you extra supports as needed to help support the child.
Your relationship, if your partner has given no reasons for you to be concerned about cheating, and it’s impacting you then your best step is therapy and working though your past traumatic relationships and helping build and maintain healthy relationships and trust.
As a family unit, therapy all round to support your challenges could lead to a more healthy functioning family ❤️
Eldest child is in therapy in equine waiting on another one to start up and waiting pead appt. Ndis is in the works at this stage all paper work is in.
I am in therapy for myself and the family unit has supports aswell. I guess I could say all the underlying issues have come to ahead at once.
He goes away and you are struggling? I’m not sure he’s being so honest with you. When the going gets tough, you don’t bail. I think you will be better off without this one. He sounds like he ads stress and he isn’t helping you. You poor mum. Why doesn’t he offer do give you a break from the kids. Does he try and spend time with them or help you in anyway. You need a break, you need support. Can anyone else have them for a night once a week
Or so.? you must be so exhausted.
He does help lots with the kids ha takes the middle child with asd away when he goes away. We all have supports in the works to