Orgasms, sex and pleasing my man

Anon Imperfect Mum

Orgasms, sex and pleasing my man

Sorry if this question is TMI, but I really want to know what other women do in this situation.
So my partner knew I was going to get my period soon, and every time we had sex in the last week it was just a quickie, and he didn't bother to try and make me orgasm.
Today, I well and truly had my period, and he just came into bed and told me I should play with him?
He is a bit grossed out by period sex, and there's absolutely way he would try to make me orgasm while I had it.
Do other women please their partner with their hand or mouth, knowing they are getting absolutely nothing back in return?

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Anon Imperfect Mum

No I don't. He sounds very selfish.

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Anon Imperfect Mum

I'm thinking this too at the moment. Knowing I won't get ANYTHING out of pleasing him at all

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Anon Imperfect Mum

Yeah, I do... but the fact that he doesn't know how to make you orgasm without penitration makes me worry for you. Time to introduce him to some toys!!!

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Anon Imperfect Mum

He can make me orgasm easily, just over the last week he hasn't bothered.
And now that I have my period, he's asking me to play with him knowing full well it does nothing for me

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Anon Imperfect Mum

No he can’t stay right the Fark away from me when I have my period 😂

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Anon Imperfect Mum

Can

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Anon Imperfect Mum

I'd rather he left me alone rather than expecting me to be all over him when I don't get anything out it at all. I'm not sure why he would think I would jump at the chance 🤔

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Anon Imperfect Mum

Do you want to? If not, then he can sort himself out. If you want to, then go for it! But I’m wondering if you feel he’s being selfish - in which case you might need to have a chat with him about your wants and needs x

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Anon Imperfect Mum

I'm a bit annoyed he wants me to do things to him knowing I won't get anything out of it, and if I say something he will get defensive

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Anon Imperfect Mum

Yeah his level of effort is an issue here. I’d be happy to help him out usually but probably less likely if I’m not looked after in the same way 🤷‍♀️ it is kind of selfish of him.

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Anon Imperfect Mum

I use a sea sponge and that way my husband and I still have sex and if I want an orgasm , he'll do me first .

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Casey Spencer

If he makes little attempt to please you, don't please him. Next time, say I hope that felt good, thanks for leaving me high and dry. I'd also suggest to him, maybe a cock ring will help you last longer. Male him feel a little inadiquet.... What a selfish lover

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Anon Imperfect Mum

If he's grossed out by period sex he goes without during that time.

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Anon Imperfect Mum

Sounds like a selfish little boy. Tell him to sort himself out if he doesn’t want what’s on the table. I’d also be bringing out my vibrator and explaining if you have more fun with that, than with your man, there is a problem.

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Anon Imperfect Mum

It sounds like both of you have a problem.... he was selfish leading up to your period but you will never do anything unless you get something in return.... you need too have a chat and open up the communication. I will give my man a headjob just because and not expect anything in return for it. I'll give him a hand job if I am not in the mood too give a headjob but want to pleasure him. He will even surprise me with oral and not expect anything in return.

TBH, period sex grosses me out as well. Yep I know it is a natural part of life but I do not find it appealing at all.

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Anon Imperfect Mum

Not during the first 3 days of my period. I am so crampy, feel gross and so very fatigued that I am just trying to get throught the days.
The last couple of day I will pleasure him or we will have shower sex, but only if I feel like it and he has never pushed or demanded sex or other pleasure

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Anon Imperfect Mum

I get turned on pleasing my man, so for me it wouldn't be an issue. I dont need pleasure to have a good time just knowing i pleased him for me is enough.

However I also know that he would tell me to put down a towel or kylie and he'd make sure I have orgasm or two. If not from him from toys.

But at the end of the day if you don't want to then don't. You don't have to do anything you aren't comfortable with.

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