Long Distance Relationships.
Do they work? How do you continue to make them work?
Known for years, always kept in semi touch - both were married - now both single for well over 12 months, have connected on a different level and want to make it work.
Both parties have kids so can't just up and leave, but also can't just show up at each other's doors whenever we want.
So then, when do you tell kids/eventually introduce them? No rush for this, but if we only see each other once every 6-8weeks?
& family?
Facetime every single night for hours, & message & call any chance we get through our work days.
It's been 3 months,
Any advice at all 😁
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Spend time together before you plan anything with kids or families or moving. FaceTime just isn’t the same as real time. And history of knowing someone doesn’t mean a relationship will work out.
Sorry for being cynical, but just spend time together first, that must be the next step you can’t plan a relationship while skipping that.
I've been in one of these relationships, where you suddenly have feelings for someone and vice versa when you are both single and lonely. You've known him for years, if your feelings were genuine, you both would have felt it years ago. Anyway.....agree with the above, you need to spend time together in real life, don't skip the most important step.
Can't you introduce him to kids as a friend and go to his house for the weekend? Not ideal, but if you need to involve the kids to spend time together, do it. Just keep it casual with them,
We did feel it years ago, however I was young & pregnant at the time. Once I had my baby, he figured nothing would ever happen so moved on, met someone, got married. We still kept in touch for occasions. Both went and did years of life, then have reconnected and it honestly feels like there was no time in-between.
And I would like to do that with the kids, just hang out all as friends etc first, it's just abit hard being in 2 different states.