Hi IMs,
I would like to know, how do you get your husbands to contribute to household chores and responsibilities and appointments and by a deadline? What is the secret?!
And why do women have to be the ones who organise everything to do with the house and kids when they work full time too?
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No women really don’t. It sounds more like the problem is that’s how it is in your house and you need to change it.
Maybe just stop doing it? Maybe make it 100% his job and he can let you know what he’d like done? Make sure he’s specific! Ask a million questions like where to park and which card to use, really weaponise that incompetence.
Really, sit down with a calendar and get him to work it out. Don’t feed him the info, let his brain turn on and do the thinking. And when you look at the calendar, if it’s not fair or doesn’t work for you, speak up! And if you notice nobody is dropping the children to school or nobody is doing any shopping, don’t tell him. Also call and put him as the first contact for school, pcyc and appointments that he is responsible for.
The poster is right . Majority of men ARE like that. Thankfully, mine isn't.
I don’t have to be the person in my relationship who does everything. Yes, I remember more than my partner but we contribute just the same. He’ll run out and do the lawns, pop the washing on the line and bring it in. I’ll wash up, we make dinner together and then whilst he is cleaning up from dinner I’ll make and pack kids lunches. We work in sync and it’s something that we both work hard to ensure we are pulling our weight and not letting the team down. I would be having a serious chat if this wasn’t the case. It is never just a woman’s job. Ever.