Me and my partner have been together for 5 years we each have a child from previous relationship but I can't help and want another baby and I've spoke to him about but he's not ready and has said that doesn't mean he won't ever be ready
I know it's silly but I can't helped but get really bummed out by it like it generally depresses me and I feel so selfish I just don't know how to deal with this emotion
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That sounds like a cop out to me. I mean sure after 1 year you might not know but 5 years is long enough to know.
We have her feelings only here. We don't know where the father is in his life, he may be in the process of bettering his career or their life and a baby would put a stop to it all!!
Yer I’d be putting the hard word on him now, it’s you that has to carry it, give birth and mostly do all the hard yards. It would be a now or never for me. I can’t settle if there is something I want so bad in life. If he doesn’t want one go find someone who does. You are wasting your days away. Better to do this younger than older but also do you both have a great loving relationship and will he be the amazing dad that you hope for.
The only thing that should be more the mum is the pregnancy. He's not saying that he isn't sure he wants another pregnancy. He's saying that he isn't sure he wants another child. That's absolutely equally significant for mums and dads.
So.... the question is... do you want another child? Or do you want a child with him? If it's the former, this may not be relationship for you. If it's the latter, you may need to accept that your happy family with him is blended with no children from your relationship.
Exactly, pregnancy is only 9 months, breast feeding 1-2 years, a child is forever.
He obviously takes parenting seriously, doesn't think, she'll handle it all, who cares.
I'm sorry but the women may do all that but the father has just as much rights to say no he does not want another kid right now!!