Hi all! I’m currently in a situation where I’ve become quite “friendly” with an older man. He’s 50 and I’m in my 30’s. We get along really well and both seem to be quite relaxed, especially in regards to any expectations on relationships. We’ve been flirting for a really long time now (years) and it’s suddenly progressed to the next step when something WILL actually happen! I’m freaking out!! I’m pretty much a born again virgin and the idea of getting my freak on with an older man is making me overthink and I don’t want to talk myself out of it!! This is not something that will necessarily continue onto a relationship, we’ve both been burnt and don’t want any drama but he’s also made it very clear that he’s not a player and not interested in one nighters.
Has anyone else been with an older guy and care to share experiences?! 😂
Hooking up with an older man
Hooking up with an older man
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I married one! It's been amazing, guys my age are too immature and no way would I go younger lol.
Large and moderate age gaps are very common . I'm 51 and my husband is 37. Just the other way around and today is our 13th wedding anniversary. It'll work Iike any other relationship if it's meant to. Go for it! You won't know if you don't go 😊
Happy anniversary! I know a few in relationships with big age gaps but most are where the man is older. It really is more common than people realise
I loooove older men 😍 go for it!!!
Do it. Have fun with it. If it evolves into something more serious then just see how you feel. If it doesn't then at least you have had a good time in the meantime. I prefer older men but a bit smaller of an age gap.
I generally prefer a smaller age gap but there’s just something about him!
Sometimes it’s just fun to flirt but the idea of taking that next step isn’t it. I have a workmate like this. We get on soooo well, and we flirt, and people comment, but in a private room there’s no tension and still no feeling to take it any further than a close friendship.
If you’re icky about the idea, then don’t do it. Go hook up with someone that you’re sexually attracted to.
I definitely don’t feel opposed to it! It’s been building for a long time, haha!
I'm pretty open minded about sex/sexual relationships. As long as all parties are legally/enthusiastically consenting, no one is getting hurt in the process and you're doing it safely - have some damn fun I say!
Age etc, doesn't matter.
However, I will suggest you have a bit of a closer look at your apprehension.
Is it genuinely just nerves and a bit of overthinking or is this your intuition telling you that going down this path may not be a great idea?
I’m apprehensive about this with anyone! It’s been a long time and I’ve lost a lot of confidence so I’m just very nervous in general. I had a date with someone my age not that long ago and completely psyched myself out- to the point where me leaving at the end of the night seemed very abrupt. It was a little different though, as I didn’t feel any chemistry whatsoever with that guy…but this older one- there’s definitely chemistry there, it’s just scary and my confidence is lacking
In late 20s, I got with a guy 19 years older, he respected all of my boundaries, he was so sweet. I'd rather look at older then younger now. He ruined me. Lol
Married an older man at 20, he was 35
So now I’m 35 and he’s 51
Honestly our sex life is good, but he can physically tire before me but that’s honestly about it. He has a physically taxing job and honestly could happen at any age.
I say go for it! Our only issues come from parenting, and sometimes generational thinking but that’s all.
Have fun!!!
Update: did it! Loved it! Going to keep doing it! 😂😆