How do you make friends as an adult? I have friends but they are the type of friendships where we message each other every two months or so to check in, maybe catch up once or twice a year for coffee if we're lucky. I don't have the type of friendship with anyone where I feel like I can pick up the phone and chat with them. I don't have family I am close to and my parents aren't in the picture so I am so incredibly lonely. I have a husband and when things are good, we talk. However, we hit a really rough patch about a year ago and I almost left but it reminded me how isolated I am as I'm not close enough to any of my friends to ask for support. I understand it can be hard to maintain friendships as an adult. We have kids, jobs, etc. But is it normal to not have some friends that you feel close enough to go away for a girls weekend with? To not have support and feel so lonely? This might sound silly but I was just watching a TV show where someone found out she had cancer and one of the first people she went to tell was her best friend and it occurred to me that, other than my husband, I have nobody to lean on if that happened to me. And this made me feel so incredibly sad.
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You could join in some groups, if you have any interests or hobbies. Catch up with other parents and kids from school for a coffee and play. Put yourself out there a bit more. Contact your other friends more and see if they’d like to catch up and do something without the kids more often. They may feel the same. Open up a little more to them, they may feel the same. I have a few friends I catch up with but I prefer to just be with my kids.