Hi IMs,
I am so lonely. I am literally alone in my home (life threatening chronic illness) on my own most of the time. I have not found any online groups that are close knit (been trying for many years). My family are dysfunctional and abusive. My kids are teens now so they are busy. My partner has untreated BPD so is emotionally abusive (but my only urgent help for my illness episodes). I can’t leave the home (allergic to everything). I can’t have support workers (long story). I can’t work or study (illness flares last too long). I’ve lost all friends and connections (due to the awful symptoms that others don’t want to be around).
What would you do if you were me, to find purpose and connection within these restrictions?
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Do you have any interests or hobbies?
Even if they're things you can't do due to your illness? Sports fan pages, band fan pages, specific animal groups, cars, art, anything. Shared interests create the common ground for friendships to blossom.
Look up old friends online, volunteer, look for local social groups - so many people are isolated now that these kinds of social groups that hold simple meetup events that are open to all are becoming more common. Join a hobby you enjoy. Ask online if there’s any others who would like to collaborate on it.
Most friendships are built on a shared interest/something in common.
Women’s centres also run events and you would find other women who understand your situation there.