I feel like my life is spiralling at the moment, just left a really long term relationship due to infidelity (multiple times mind you).
I am needing to hear some positive relationship stories after leaving a very toxic relationship. After healing yourself, did you find love again, how long after and how did you meet them?
I won’t lie the whole dating thing petrifies me
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I was single for 4 years until I found my prince. I won't lie, I had to deal with some absolute frogs during that time lol but I'm really happy now. I met him online on PoF.
Pof here too and pretty happy 😁
I was single for 15 years!!!! I dated & had some short term relationships, but nothing serious.
I built a great career, bought a flat, found fantastic girlfriends, travelled the world & had an amazing time.
I eventually met a man through friends, who was just out of a horribly bad marriage, and now we're engaged.
He's so supportive of me keeping going with everything I had before him (yes, even travelling without him)
I think we work so well because we both knew what we DON'T WANT in a relationship, and that's what we focus on - keeping those bad things away. So that only leaves room for the good things naturally.
I really think people shouldn't write a list of what they want in a partner - they need a list of what they don't want. And not compromise on that.
Like, if he's a great guy but gets aggressive when drunk - walk away. Don't go in thinking "oh I can put up with that once a week because he's so great all the other times".
No. Know your worth, and hold your standards.
This probably isn’t the kind of positive story you mean.
But I am so happy being single. I used to think being single would be horrible and I worried I wouldn’t find someone to be with.
I LOVE my life and I am single. Im just super happy and have built a great life for myself.
If a guy comes along that’s right for me and compliments my life, then ok, but my life is awesome and if he doesn’t come along that’s ok to.
Me too!!!!
Why are people obsessed with finding a partner?
Single for 5 years and loved it. I've been in a relationship now for 7 years but I hate to think who I would have ended up with if I had moved on too soon. You leave yourself open to some horrible people if your only focus is "finding love". Learn to love being single, find yourself, find new friends, get your kids used to their parents being split up. Focus on yourself and your kids.
Did this too. Loved my time dating and meeting new people (well some of them haha). It took an ultra special man waltzing on in to stop me 😁
Don't focus on finding love, focus on creating the most amazing life for you and your kids.
If you start dating, it will take the focus away from the important things.
I've been single for a very long time post divorce and I am very contented in my life.
Someone would have to be amazing to be granted access to my life lol
You don't need a partner to be whole, change your way of thinking or you will be back in another toxic relationship.
I left a very abusive relationship where my ex partner hid a ice addiction from me because I worked so much to build our house, I worked long hours and most weekends. It was so violent at one point thats he dragged me down a flight of stairs by my ankles and threw things at my kids and hit them (also didn't find out till after I left because my kids were scared to tell me).
I was single 6-7 years and I've only just now started dating at again. There is a lot of weirdo's out there and you do have to sift through the crazy but I have met someone who's actually a friend of my brother's and he's kinda been through similar things so we can relate on soo many different levels, ive never had that before but he treats me like an absolute queen, he puts my mind to rest with my worries and genuinely cares about me and my kids, he's funny, sweet and actually makes me feel valued!
In saying this that 6-7 years though I did buy my own house, I've travelled with the kids, I just brought my first brand new car, I've built my career up where I'm on really really good money and don't even have to work weekends anymore. It has been a struggle and there has been times where I've felt like giving up but I'm in such a good place now and I'm so excited for the future.
You will get there too mumma, never give up!!
So how do you deal with your unmet needs sexually then, I am struggling with this since becoming single
Vibrator or Tinder 🤷♀️ Tinder isn't for relationships or finding love 😂😂😂
Get amongst it
FetLife
FWB, that part is easy
I was terrified too so just started dating and made it clear I was not interested in anything serious. Some would push for a relationship and when I would say no they would suddenly turn nasty. Huge eye opener for me but it also taught me to trust myself and be firm. I gained a really clear idea of what I did not want in a relationship. So best advice is date! and do not settle.
A few years down the track I went out with this man who just felt 'right'. It was like someone had missed snatching up a good one. Still amicable with his ex, they just wanted different things. Nearly 5 more years down the line and he is still kind, consistent and the man who changed my mind 🥰
I still do not regret my time dating as it helped me to learn to see my own worth and protect it.
I had a HORRIBLE dating life. From about the age of 16 until about 24 I dated men that cheated on me, lied and just down right shitty people. Walking red flags now that I look back at them.
At 23 my relationship ended and I just said fuck it, and took time to myself. I was single for about a year, and decided to join eharmony. I was on there for a few months and met my now husband, we've been together for 10 years, and are expecting our first child soon.
He is honestly the most amazing person I have ever met. I say to my young sister (who is currently going through the same relationship ordeal I did) that you don't know what to expect until you start dating someone who knows how to treat you right.
Honestly, when I first started dating my husband I was shocked that this was what a relationship was meant to be like.