Ended relationship but baby on the way.
I ended the relationship die to toxic behaviour towards kids and myself.
I have brought many things for the baby to set up and also all costs of scans appointments etc have been on me.
Is there a way for the "father" to be held responsible for sharing these costs.
I'm in qld. Unsure if theres avenues to push for this.
Naturally a father should help but this "man" avoids contributing at all. But wants to know outcomes of scans etc even when he doesn't show up for them.
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Do you really want your child's life filled with arguments about money with the other parent, or told their father isn't a father simply because he's not paying for what you want him to pay for? Separate money from your child. Don't join the two together. Tell him about scans and Drs appointments. Pave the way for a good co parenting relationship that revolves around the child, not money. When you're on good terms you might find it's a lot easier to get him to financially contribute but there's no way to force him while you're pregnant. Baby furniture etc should be up to whoever the baby is living with and using it. So if he's having baby for any time he needs to buy his own stuff for that, not use yours.
Unfortunately, no there isn’t.
A father is not just someone that visits or spends time, its also helping to raise, money time guidence effort security everything. Not just someone that disregards responsibility in all directions. ?
I read somewhere there is something thats possible to make them pay 50% of costs of pregnancy related medical expenses etc. I never knew about it before and i guess others possibly havent either
Its called Child Birth Maintence and covers scan costs and birth related things. During and after pregnancy/birth.
It means paying for lawyers and going to court, then you will need a paternity test to make sure it's his and it's not for baby's needs like furniture or consumables only costs you incur or lose as a pregnant woman. Weigh it all up and it's not worth it for the average Joe. Like someone else said, be the bigger person, stop arguing about money and concentrating on your baby and try and build a better relationship with your ex for everyones sake.
Health care should be completely free. Do not ask him for anything, do it yourself and the reason is that you need to cut contact and move on. Making contact and asking him to step up is dangerous for you because it’s opening the door to repeat your problems.
Change your view and see these appointments as medical for you. After all, they are also looking at your health. If you start fighting over costs and belittling him before the child is even born, the child is going to suffer from toxic parents their whole life
Why do you want to poke the bear?
Don't you want a peaceful calm pregnancy?
After all your kids have been through, don't you want peace for them?
You pay for your setup and when bubs is born, he pays for his.
Are you going private?
My pregnancy cost me nothing at the local public hospital.
I don't think he should really pay if it is your choice to go private.
Would you be paying for these things regardless? I think you would . Leave him out until it's time to seek child support
Yes childbirth expenses, keep your receipts!
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