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Over the weekend, my husband and partner of 23 years, told me to hang myself.
We were stupidly bickering prior and he just said it. I just stood there staring at him expecting him to either apologise, take it back or do the classic "just joking" line but he just repeated it. I said "I can't believe you just said that. That's disgusting" then he mumbled something to himself and walked off.
He tells me regularly he hates me but this is a new low. I am heartbroken.
He lost his best friend this way several years ago so it isn't a subject we bring up in our house ever.
I am at a loss at how to act.
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He regularly tells you he hates you but yet you stay?
Surely this has to be the catalyst to tell him to go fuck himself with the pointy end of a pineapple and venture into a world where your self respect isn't trampled by this "man".
This! Get out! Live your life to the fullest without him bringing you down!
I think at that point you should have walked out, left and never come back and lived your li free happily ever after without him. My best friend hung himself, I’ve never gotten over and if my husband was sick enough to say such a thing to me, he would be out the door there and then. Who could say such a thing. It’s sick! He tells you he hates you, I think you need to leave and get as far away from him as possible. He sounds awful. Please know you deserve better and you can live a better life when you are free if him. This isn’t about you and Is everything about him. What a nasty and vile human. You are too good for him, please remember that always.
You should leave when he tells you he hates you. You have to listen to the worst they show you, it does damage. It can’t make up for the good.
So my advice is for you to treat him like someone who hates you. Someone who looked you in the eyes and wished you dead. For real.
If you don’t have a partner to support you through that, you don’t have a partner.
He should NOT be a person doing this to you.
You cannot underestimate the impact this has on you. So think about yourself for once here - you are now in very dangerous territory. You’re living with someone, your one truest closest person, and they are in your ear with hate and harm.
I am not one to say “just leave” but you are at huge risk here. The impact he has on your mental health is too high. You need to immediately seek professional support to help you through the next steps. What he has said is beyond messed up and I don’t see how you can feel the same about him. This is toxic and your focus right now needs to be on yourself and sorting out how on earth you are putting up with this abhorrent treatment from him. Please take care.
He is abusive, this is DV and you need to be safe. Run before he convinces you to start hating yourself too x
That’s horrible!! It’s unforgivable.
Fuck that. Tell him to pack his things and fuck off.