Younger man

Anon Imperfect Mum

Younger man

Hi there sisterhood

I'm a 44 year old mum. I've been single for years and recently decided to put myself out there and maybe start dating again. I have been chatting to a man online for a few weeks and we have really hit it off. Only issue is, he is 13 years younger than me. Which isn't really an issue for me but I'm sure it will be for everyone else. Has anyone else has a successful relationship with a younger man?

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Anon Imperfect Mum

I think the only problem is if you are at different stages of life like has he already got kids or not? There's no point getting serious with someone unless you're on the same page with having/not having kid as that's going to end up with one of you becoming resentful or leaving. Also, learn not to care what other people think. He is in his 30's so it's not that outrageous and it's nobody else's business anyway.

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Anon Imperfect Mum

I met my husband when I was 33 and he was 23. We have been married 20 years next month.

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Anon Imperfect Mum

My sister married a guy younger than her they are sooo happy together and have been together about 7 years now. I keep trying to date my own age pool and keep getting d**k pics 🙄 (I’m 40)

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Anon Imperfect Mum

I'm in my 20s on dating apps and only talking to guys around my age and in their 30s and keep getting dick pics too

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Anon Imperfect Mum

Sorry to get your hopes up but this happens with younger men as well. 😒

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Anon Imperfect Mum

When I was 27 I was on dating apps and met my now husband who was 40 at the time and he was the only one who didn't send me dick pics which is why I agreed to go out with him and eventually marry him. I have no issue if you want to date younger but you may be disappointed if you think the dick pics will stop as they probably won't.

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Anon Imperfect Mum

Kinda just though by 40 you’d learn dick pics don’t get you girls…. Well I mean they probably do, but just not this one 😂

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Anon Imperfect Mum

I've never met a woman of any age who responded to unsolicited dick pics.

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Anon Imperfect Mum

Dating will sort out whether or not you're going to be compatible. You're not signing up to a commitment just yet, give him a go and see where you land.

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Anon Imperfect Mum

Is just date and see if it works out or not, wouldn’t be considering the long term yet only speaking online doesn’t count for much

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Anon Imperfect Mum

My hubby is 13.5 years younger than me too. Two decades on and we are still together. Can't say it's been easy though. And it's not an age thing it's a HIM thing. A man your own age will be no better if its a HIM thing too, because no one is perfect.

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Anon Imperfect Mum

I personally only date older men but if you like him why not give it a shot? I don't think there's anything wrong with a 31 year old man and 44 year old woman dating

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Anon Imperfect Mum

The only thing that would stop me from meeting him would be if he wants kids.
If he doesn't want them or already has them, then I would go on a date, what have you got to lose?

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Anon Imperfect Mum

You're both middle aged. Unless he's immature, I see no issues.

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Anon Imperfect Mum

You call 31 middle aged, yikes!
I bet you're in your 20s lol

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Anon Imperfect Mum

Lol. Nope. 40s. I think people in their 30's are settled in their career, sufficiently advanced, own their homes, etc etc. Very little difference to 40s, other than a few less greys that is.

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Anon Imperfect Mum

It's generally defined in the area of 40-60 or 45-65 or similiar.
I'm not sure why you are debating this, it is a well established concept.
Your reasons are also way off base, it's like you don't even understand what middle age is (trust me, you will when you start going through it).
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Middle_age

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Anon Imperfect Mum

There's no way a person in their 40s would call a 31 year old middle aged or say there's no difference, but good try.
Definitely a millenial thing to say.

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Anon Imperfect Mum

Considering a 31 year old is a millennial I would say it's more of a gen z thing to say

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Anon Imperfect Mum

I forgot about them lol sounds about right.
But I think we can all agree it's a very young person, pretending to be in their 40s.

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Anon Imperfect Mum

I was thinking maybe an ESL person who doesn't understand what middle aged means?

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Anon Imperfect Mum

Good point, didn't think of that.

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Anon Imperfect Mum

My partner is 14 years younger than me, we have been together for almost 10 years and have a 6 yr old child together. I actually didn’t tell a lot of people his age, I would be very vague about it or just let them guess and say yes about that age. My older children have only just realised the actual age difference in the last couple of years.

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