Hi Mums. I have a question when a guy says his not sexually attracted to someone at the beginning of them meeting then still spends time with that person could he change his mind be interested then could it end up being in a relationship. Like the friendship has lasted
a year. The communication is there.
Friendly advise please
Friendly advise please
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Nope, he's stringing you along.
I'm not feeling that if he's made it clear his not interested in her that way. But I do see this friendship failing due to her feelings
Why would you want to though?
Are you saying that's what he's said (he develops sexual attraction after being friends) or what you're hoping for?
The former: He's demisexual
The latter: Don't torture yourself, either accept the friendship or move on
The risk here is, he just "settles" because he can't find someone else and it's easy/comfortable.
He may also keep you around because he knows you want him, for the ego boost or the emotional support.
Only you really know the situation, it's hard to say.
Maybe he's stringing them along as a fallback (especially if he randomly has sex with them as a "one-off only") or maybe he genuinely values the friendship as a FRIENDSHIP.
If he's been upfront about not having a sexual attraction, and hasn't made any romantic moves in a year, give it up. Stop hoping & hurting yourself, move on if need be.
If a man wants to be with someone, he will persue them and he will make it very clear.
I didn't understand that properly until I met my current partner. I was his #1 priority from word go, and he made every effort possible (and still does, 3 years in).
Read the book "he's just not that into you". It started as a piss-take, but it is 100% accurate 😂
Maybe they're just great friends? Look at the content/intent of their communication, not the frequency
I was seeing a guy like this. He was saying that to install doubt in me. It was nothing to do with me. He was a complete dick and narcisst. He then said it about the next girl, he is still with her and I can imagine what he tells her daily. Why would you say that to someone.
Yea of course feelings can change but if a guy said that striaght up, I wouldn’t pursue anything else. I’d be done.
I was in this situation once. I was madly inlove, but he simply loved my companionship. He spoilt me rotting, would go out of his was to make me feel wanted, and cared about, he loved me as a friend, but had no desire for a relationship. For over 12 months we shared his bed, even slept naked by one another, but never once did we have sex. He was a biker, and he protected me in terms of he made it clear I was not available. It got to the point that I was so jealous of other woman he spoke to, that we chose to end the friendship. It's not always a case of being led on
Nope, you’re filling some type of void, maybe he just wants attention and his ego stroked. But I highly doubt it’ll ever turn into a relationship or at least a healthy one
He's just not that in to you