Hi everyone I’m quite stressed today about my sister not leaving her husband and running to my parents place even time he hits her. Just letting you guys know my sister and family is overseas I’ve told my dad several times to go to police but my sister stops him saying that where’s she gonna go with the two kids and what will people think.
I will support her until I’m alive I don’t mind only if she leaves that prick I really wanna smack that person. It really hurts me to see her cry and I’m here all the way away from her and not being able to help her
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My ex SIL was the same and it's so frustrating. He went to jail a few times and she would always be there waiting for him to get out. She had so many people try and help her and police had been involved many times but she would leave for a few days and go back. It gets to a point where it's so stressful for those close by that you just want to distance yourself for your own mental health instead of getting put through the ringer because of someone else's choices. And as hard as it is, it all comes down to choice, she's choosing to stay and there's not one thing anyone can do about it until she decides to put herself and her kids before "What will people think".
Well your dad needs to speak for his daughter and go to the police or you ring the local police next time you know she goes to your dads. She could end up dead.
In Australia anyone can report DV to the police, is it the same in the country they're in? Could you make a call to the authorities over there and make a report yourself?
If it's similar to Australia the police can't do anything if the victim doesn't want to leave or press charges. They might be able to issue a restraining order but that's useless if the person it's meant to be protecting is ignoring it. That's why it's very frustrating for families to watch loved ones go through it. People stuck in DV relationships should be deemed mentally unstable and let families make decisions for them, same as drug addicts.
Can you pass on contact details to your dad, for DV services your sister can access? It might help her to realise there is support available to her if she leaves. Until she hits her rock bottom, she won’t leave. All you can do is provide a listening ear if she wants it and let her know what support is available.