circumcised or not? Deal breaker or not. I’m a widow and have recently put my self out there to start dating again though my problem is… the minute I find out they are not circumcised I totally shut down and is a deal breaker for me. Pls tell me I’m not alone or tell me what difference it makes as I can’t say I have ever been with any one that’s not circumcised help!!
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While being circumcised or not has never bothered me, I suppose if guys are allowed to have preferences on wether women are smoothly shaven or not then you are allowed to have a preference on this.
However you are going to extremely limit your dating pool. Circumcision was mostly out of fashion by the time my son was born in the 1990s, so depending on your age.
You are probably going to have to examine why you think the way you do, in order to move past it.
I have been with a few dudes who weren't circumcised (in my early 40s and blokes born late 70s early 80s tend to be a lucky dip, circumcision-wise).
We've been conditioned to think foreskins aren't as clean, that men don't take care of themselves in that area, that it's gross or something. Personally I've never found that to be the case and like most things, tends to come down to the individual. The head of the penis will likely be more sensitive for someone who is not circumcised, but apart from that, there isn't much difference.
Not a deal breaker for me. I'm not like that. But there are people out there that have certain rules for partners bodies like no fat people, certain height, etc etc. I just find other things more important and I don't care about foreskins, it's a body part after all. Kind of reminds me of that trend 10-20 years ago or so where women were getting their flaps surgically reduced because apparently men don't like them big but most men love a nice camel toe!
Oh I prefer uncircumcised, it's more fun! Give it a go at least once :)
No and I think you need to get past it if you want to date again. It doesn’t bother me at all.
The foreskin withdraws when they are hard and looks the same. Cut or uncut us irrelevant. Just find a man that washes it either way
You can get a grub that doesn't clean his circumcised one just as easily as an uncircumcised guy that does. My partner is not circumcised and his dick is very clean.
No different sexually, except I can gently include the foreskin in a hand job or blow job. Unlike another commenter, it's my understanding it's the uncircumcised guys with a more sensitive head based on a circumcised guys head always being exposed, therefore desensitised.
What exactly is upsetting you about an uncircumcised penis?
Imagine having a baby and just because of the genitalia it’s born with they go straight off to have their most sensitive part snipped. It’s mind-boggling. I could not have done that to either of my precious babies. It’s great that man didn’t experience such early trauma!
I couldn't do it to my beautiful boy either. Unless of course he need it for medical reasons, absolutely no one was going to be causing my baby any unnecessary pain for looks
I became single last year and the first dick I got was circumcised. after being with someone for 15yrs who wasn't, it was a fun experience. doesn't worry me though, skin on or off, a good dicking is a good dicking 🤣🤣
How would you feel if this was the other way around? What if the guys who were circumcised only wanted ladies with small lips and waxed? I’d try and move past it. Goodluck.
This is the most ridiculous thing I’ve ever read! I barely notice let alone care
Good on you for putting yourself out there. It might be worth reflecting on what you're afraid of. We're you told something growing up? What's the association? It's pretty uncommon now to be circumcised. It might be new to you, but try to see it as a new experience. It's just the unknown. For me, someone needs to have a great personality be kind and fun, and I need to be attracted to them. I wouldn't know about where someone is circumcised or not until I was ready to have sex with them. At that point I would want us both to be open to the bodies we have and the pleasure we can find together. Much more for me about what they do with their bodies and mine than superficial aspects. Good luck in finding a new partner and great lover!
Circumcision is absolutely becoming uncommon. Most are only for religious or medical reasons. I hope women of these generations are more open to the uncircumcised penis than you are
The rate of babies being circumcised has dropped off since the 1980s. What was once considered a routine procedure is now very rare. My sister was horrified when I refused to have my oldest son circumcised. I flat out refused to inflict unnecessary pain on my child. My doctor was present for the conversation and said good on you mum!
If you’re so horrified by a natural penis that you can’t have sex with an uncircumcised man, you are probably better off buying a vibrator and forgetting about having sex with men because you’re more likely to find the majority are now uncircumcised.
No you are not alone. It turns me off as well. It's just a preference, try not to be too hard on yourself and overthink it. You are not judging these men for not having one, it's just does not do it for you.