Recent marriage break up with teenagers however I am wondering what sort of online help there is for their mental health? And preferably free.
They aren’t coping with him just leaving with no warning and having very minimal contact with them ever since.
I am trying my absolute best but it’s breaking my heart. They and myself don’t deserve this. The children are reluctant to “talk” about their feelings so I am sort of feeling like a failure to them by not being able to help them through this.
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I would start with GP, for referral.
Can I just say, things generally return to normal when the dust settles.
My ex went AWOL when we broke up for a few months, but he came back and we've had regular visitation for the past 5 years.
Don't bad mouth their father at all.
Guys fall apart, we keep it together for the kids, it's unfair but seems to be the way it goes.
Good luck.
Op poster here. When you say awol what did your x do? Mine has moved to another state, I am sure is still seeing this women and together they have both ruined our lives… he is emotionally distracted no empathy and feels like he doesn’t even care about the mess he has created.
Yes mine was out with women, left me to sell the house and handle everything.
It was a nightmare.
But I'm just saying a lot of the time, the dust can settle (not always guaranteed).
I have noticed men run away with another woman, probably to distract themselves, they don't call it a rebound for nothing.
I'm not making excuses, they are piss weak and shitty human beings and they make it ten times harder for us.
We carry like 100% of the burden and they run around starting romances, drinking and having a great time.
But they aren't really having a great time and while we're suffering and they aren't, it suddenly hits them months later and we are somewhat okay, because we have dealt with it.
Stay strong, I nearly completely lost my sanity, for real. Please don't let another human being destroy you, like what nearly happened to me.
Years later we get along fine, kids okay, it can turn out okay.
Don't turn the kids against him, try to keep them out of it.
Thinking of you x
Thank you for this insight, I feel this is very similar case to mine, I am currently trying to navigate selling 1 of our home and hopefully I will be able to take over the repayments. It nearly has busted me mentally, emotionally and physically, not to mention what it’s done and doing to the children. Wish they could see their destructive behaviour is unacceptable. I will keep powering on as I have no other option but it’s a tough road. Thanks for your input. I appreciate hearing from others
Thank you for this insight, I feel this is very similar case to mine, I am currently trying to navigate selling 1 of our home and hopefully I will be able to take over the repayments. It nearly has busted me mentally, emotionally and physically, not to mention what it’s done and doing to the children. Wish they could see their destructive behaviour is unacceptable. I will keep powering on as I have no other option but it’s a tough road. Thanks for your input. I appreciate hearing from others
My kids were young, so its harder for you, they understand more.
I borrowed some money from my mum and got a man in to fix up the house/garden, all the bits and pieces before i put it on the market.
My real estate agent was amazing, helped me move stuff, he became a friend in the end.
We were broke and he was spending money out and about, day trips, pubs, taxis etc. being the big man in town with literally our last dollar.
The lack of care/empathy and the callousness to just walk away, it was such an eye opener, you really get to see the the true version of them.
I ended up in a very bad way mentally, so that's why I say, pls take care of yourself.
It's triggering just thinking about it all, no wonder I have stayed single lol
I will add, I'm extremely happy with my life now xxx
If you can’t get a psychologist due to costs try the school GO or Chappy or school counsellor. Or try getting them to call Kinds helpline or visit online.