My husband gets friend request from all kinds of random people men and women both and he always ignores them and never adds them but a couple of days ago he received one from a woman and accepted it. She initiated conversation after he accepted her request just by saying hi. He responded they asked each other where they’re from and how old they are. (All of the conversation being during the few minutes he was gone to town to pick up lunch.) which was fine because it was innocent type conversation. Then I noticed he started repeatedly looking at her snap stories where she’s naked only showing her upper half and her naked breasts. Every since he’s added her he looks at these photos on her story over and over and over the same photos she posts daily. Is this disrespectful to me being his wife and why all of a sudden did he decide to accept a request like this and look at and talk to another woman?
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Yes it is disrespectful yuk! Be tough on him now to block this person. He will still do it though. Tell him he keeps doing it he’s out. Bet if she offered to meet him, he would.
This is probably terrible of me but I’ve not even mentioned it or said anything to let him know that I know the extent of what he’s doing. Is it wrong of me to let it go on a little while longer because I feel as if it gives him the actual free will to do what he actually wants to do? As to where if I bring it up to him then would he only be stopping because he knows that I know? Does that make any sense at all? If so is it wrong of me? I guess I just want to know deep down if he has the control and love for me to do the right thing on his own.
You want him to come to his senses and stop on his own accord so it proves to you he isn't the disrespectful pig hes currently being. I fully understand you poor thing.
Yes exactly! Thank you for understanding!
How would be react of the situation was reversed?
And also how is her nudity allowed on fb??? Report the heck out of it 😉
Yes! Exactly! I would like to think that if the situation were reversed he would care enough for it to matter but we’ll never know for sure unfortunately. Unfortunately it’s on Snapchat instead of Facebook so I’m not sure if or how I can report it. Plus it being on Snapchat just makes it that much more disrespectful in my eyes because I feel like Snapchat is made for that kind of stuff and hiding things.
Snapchat is 100% for sexting and sending nudes
I completely agree.
Is it just the same photos over and over? I’m going to guess it’s probably not even a lady and is a scammer…
I had a similar situation but on porn sites chatting while you know sexual . I expressed to him and he denied it with clear evidence. I stated how I felt and many months it continued. I didn’t monitor him I found out when he opened his phone to show me a couple of times forgetting to close the page. We I thought were good but his reaction was I’m overreacting and to me it was cheating . They look at photos yeh. Go to strippers yeh but online intimate chatting and sexual no way to me (others don’t see it as this but your boundaries need to be respected, as should his . He stays he accepts them. All couples set boundaries and the other can chose to accept or don’t in my book). It hurts I have had emotional and physical self esteem issues since not to mention trust or the why am I not enough. If you are not comfortable express to him. He continues it’s your choice how you handle it. But no way are you wrong to feel the way you do.
Nope, call him out on it and do not wait. If you say something now it may help him to wake up to himself and question his actions and whether there is something amiss in your own relationship you can work on together. If you leave it, he will continue on down that path and once down it the damage to your marriage will be way worse.