Hey mums
My 5 year old Daughter who is in prep has started crying again at drop off she hasn’t cried since the first term
It can sometimes be hysterical crying but apparently stops right after I drop her off and she can’t see me anymore but it’s quiet distressing for me that that is the last I see of her is her sad
For context Dad was doing drop off but he has now returned back to the office so our routine has changed with who does drop off and pick up
Has anyone experienced this in term 3
I’m worried about her emotional regulation I’ve tried spending more time with her in the morning so the mornings aren’t rushed
I’ve tried rewarding when she doesn’t cry
Is she doing this for attention ?
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It’s quite normal because they’re so young, they enjoy school and are totally fine there but overall they just want to be with mum and don’t want to leave.
It’s reassuring to know they’re fine once there, so it’s just the point of separation. It narrows down what you can work on.
Make sure they don’t know it upsets you or makes you sad. Stay positive and say have a great day, I love you, and make the separation quick. Pass off to someone else or have them busy with friends to help them not focus and dwell and make it a huge thing.
Can dad do the drop offs again?
Otherwise talk about it, say how you don’t want them starting their day in tears like that - especially when we both know it’s not needed. So ask them, how can we make it better? They’re clever kids, they’ll have ideas. And remind them it’s ok to have feelings, but they do pass and we can do things to help us feel better. They’ll settle as they get a bit older.
No she is anxious. I used to take my son to the office every morning and they’d let him play for 15-20 mins in there and then take him to class. This helped him adjust and settle in so much more.
First day of prep my son ran off and barely said goodbye, fast forward a year, we moved, he was hysterical at every drop off for the whole first term of year one. We did a transition drop off, I would arrive early with him and we would play in the library for 10 mins then I would leave, it took so.e time but he got used to it and now we do school drop off with no tears.
I know how incredibly hard it can be to leave them when they are upset like that, I cried on the walk back to my car a number of times xx
I’m a teacher and we often see this in term 3 after the holidays. It’s a long year for little people. Chat to her teacher and see what they suggest?