I’ve always wanted 3 children. Currently have two girls and both will be in school next year. I wouldn’t want anymore of an age gap personally then maybe having my 3rd next year but I find It hard to come to a final decision. I would absolutely love another little babe and he or she would be absolutely adored. But then I have the days when it’s so hard with two as it is and I’m thinking how can I add another to this chaos lol.
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My two kids are older now and I'm actually glad I didn't have a 3rd. I didn't realise how expensive kids get the older they get, I thought daycare was the biggest expense LOL how wrong I was. If I had a 3rd we wouldn't have been able to do a lot of what my 2 girls and I have done. The memories would have probably been mostly just at home instead of on holidays to all sorts of places.
I always feel when it comes to kids, they are a huge commitment. If you aren’t feeling 100% strong YES, then it’s a NO.
I have 3 teenagers. 3 kids has been challenging in ways I never fully anticipated.
If I were in the position of contemplating a 3rd child in 2022, I really don't think I'd take that plunge.
Just go for it. The rest will come naturally . Do it now or never else you’ll regret it.. I did and had my 3rd and it’s the best thing I ever did.
Lots of people decided not to have another child for all sorts of reasons and don't regret it. Better to regret a child you didn't have than one you did have.
"Just go for it, it's now or never" really isn't an ideal attitude to have when it comes to bringing a whole new person into this world. Having a child is a big deal and it should be considered carefully because "the rest" as you put it, doesn't always work out naturally or easily.
We all have regrets and look, some people do regret having children. I know in my heart that I probably shouldn't have had my 3rd and that's a hard feeling to live with.
I didn't have a 3rd because I had doubts and I don't regret it at all!
You never regret the kids you have just the ones you don’t.
I have three closer in age 12, 10 and 8.
I love having three it’s so special. Financially it’s obviously more but that wasn’t a factor for us.
It is more difficult then those who only have two mostly only for Saturday sports as they may need to
be in different locations at the same time. We rely on grandparents etc
Our eldest child has asd and T1 diabetes, and it was a hard decision going from 2 to 3 kids. I must say though that our youngest has been an absolute delight and just slipped into our routine ❤️ They have also been diagnosed with asd and are non verbal, so the only thing really holding our family back from having a 4th is our very full schedule. Lots of therapies and appointments but I wouldn’t change the number of kids I had for anything ❤️ I feel like my youngest has given me all the more patience but you will know deep down if your cup is already too full 🤗