I don't know where to start. I've been married 9 years and absolutely love my husband but I'm at the point where I want to leave but I don't know how. I have 4 kids, 2 of which are young adults. With the housing crisis I'm looking at homelessness if I leave now and I can't afford this place on my own. I get a little carer payment and ftb but it would take weeks before single rates apply for starters. Why I want to leave. His children ( adults) treat me like shit, treat my children like shit and even him like shit yet he does nothing about it. Even telling lies about him and I to try getting my youngest taken by child protection yet he does nothing. All proven lies and cleared but still the toll it took on my children being interviewed etc was huge. There is no communication open between us he's just not open to talking about the issues affecting the marriage, the kids and our lives in general. He's like a stranger these days. I use to be able to talk with him. Because of how hurt I am by his lack of support especially around how his family treats me I actually feel repulsed by his touch now. I actually regret marrying him.
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Get a job, don’t rely on welfare, the big payments end when your kids are 6 or 8.
It’s no quality of life.
Stand on your own two feet.
Gain back your independence.
I get carer for one of my young adult children. Unfortunately disability means I can't work full time otherwise I would already be doing just that.
All my kids are older than 8
I have a teenager with cp(single mum) and I was recently able to get a job working from home in my field (live regionally).
There’s a lot more available since covid.
Or could you work nights when your husband is home to save some money?
Where there’s a will, there’s a way.
As I am on the partner rate I only get a little carer payment as it goes on my husband's income. A part time job for me while still together would cut cp completely off leaving my adult child without vital treatments. A job is something I will be getting once I leave but is unattainable at this moment in time.