Does anyone wonder what the point of living is? I am mid to late 40's and mum to young adults. It has just been the three of us since the beginning. I recently took steps to better my life and get out of a job and town I didn't like. The trouble is that although I am closer to family and fun things to do, I can't help but wonder what the point of living is.
I don't think I will ever meet anyone as I have been alone too long. My children need me but not like they used to. I have had the same career all my life but it is not something I think I can do as I get older and have no idea what else I can do or would be any good at. I know if I died that my children would be very lost for a while and I feel like the only reason I am still here is because of them.
I have just never been anyone's person and feel as though if I wasn't here, the world would keep spinning and people would move on. I need to know that there is a purpose to all this, because I am just one person on a planet of 7 billion people and not sure that my existence matters. How do I convince myself it does matter?
I am not suicidal but I do think about not being here sometimes
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At the end it really is about love, loving your people and you can always build that network larger. The stronger it is the better off your kids will be when you go, but also the better you will be off when your kids fly the nest and you look around and wonder what now. Feed your passions, interests, hobbies and you’ll find your people along the way.
I want to add, and loving yourself. ❤️
You need to see a GP and psychologist...it sounds like you're having some pretty dark thoughts and it would be so helpful for you to work through them with a professional.
I was single (no kids) for 18 years before I met my person. I loooooooved being single. I got a great job, studied, got promoted, bought a unit, travelled the world, have a great bunch of girlfriends and a great social life.
Life is what you make it.
I always said it would take one hell of a man to convince me to settle down with him. And yep, I found him. Accidentally. And believe me, it took a lot of hard work & convincing on his behalf 😂
And I still have all of the above things. He's happy for me to travel with and without him. He actively supports my career & studies, and my social life.
I've seen some of my friends be absolutely desperate to be in a relationship, like their whole world revolves around wanting a man and everything else is secondary.
They always end up settling for way less than they deserve, and are desperately trying to convince themselves they're happy with him. Yuck.
You've made great steps in moving & improving your circumstances. Maybe it's time to work towards a different career now. Maybe look into a career in helping people in some way - maybe that's what you're here for.
Be warned though - "helping" careers can lead to burnout quickly. You need to be able to detatch.
Your main purpose in life should be YOU. Do what you need to do to be happy.
If Mr Perfect happens to fall into your lap, great. If not, so what? Be your own happy ever after.