My family member was in a same sex relationship both (will say rob for family member and Martin for partner) had children previously 100% care for Rob for his children, 50% for Martin
It was a very toxic relationship, multiple times Rob would come over with bruises, not answer video calls, get the kids to stay with family so they didn't see it.
It all ended about 4 months ago Rob was stabbed multiple times (with a steak knife thankfully damage was minimal) punched (lumps in the head) ect, Robs not innocent, Rob did grab Martin around the throat to try and stop the "fight".
Police and ambulance were called both parties went to hospital, Rob told the police everything and was charged. The rental Rob held had to be left by both parties and they finally went separate ways. Martin has no charges although there is a lot of evidence the police keep dismissing it saying its not enough (text messages admitting hitting and restricting Rob from family, videos and prior police complaints).
There's so much more but today as Rob done the school run Martin and new partner drove past and started hurling abuse while the partner was hanging out of the car AT ROB'S KIDS SCHOOL! Police were called immediately they finally came out about 2 hours afterwards and said there's nothing they can do how do we get help? Rob is scared for the kids and himself the police will not listen, Martin still tries to contact through family and any other way.
The police are not listening. Dv connect cant help other then offer to put Rob up somewhere "safe"
The lawyer said Rob done the right thing but that doesn't help the feeling of been unsafe please help.
Yes there's a lot more details but this is long enough, I appreciate any help at all thank you
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Tell him to move away and start a new life somewhere else.
Has the solicitor organised an intervention order/Avo?
Because if the police won't or haven't, a solicitor can draft up an application and have it sent through to Rob's local court to be finalised. The AVO can have an added clause to add protection to the children too, by prohibiting Martin from being X amount of metres/kilometres within the school.
If there is an AVO in place, it gives the police more power to act if Martin harrasses Rob.
If Rob was afraid for his safety, the police should have already organised an AVO.
Get Rob to keep all evidence of Martin's pst abuse as he'll need it for the AVO application.
They honestly never seem to help the ones that truly need it. As a DV survivor myself I am yet to hear of one positive outcome for anyone that has been the victim. My ex husband was told to take my kids from school and disappear - by the head of the police DV department all because my ex can sell ice to Eskimos and he conned this man as well, and I had at least 3 other police on my side after attending our house multiple times over the years and seeing what was going on but having their hands tied because I was too scared to speak up. And it's not just the police, I've found that my ex has been able to con many people from many organisations over the years, it's a horrible situation and I wish him all the best x