What do you say to your child when they are disappointed in their performance. Whether it be sporting, performing etc..
Is it ok to let them be disappointed but to also encourage them to move on and focus on the next step. Resilience is the bouncing back? My son is the kid who puts his heart and soul into everything but seems to be good at all but master of none. Not through lack of sheer determination and practise.
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I don’t think we have to expect them to not feel disappointment. Resilience isn’t just bouncing back and moving on, but being able to analyse where you did your best, appreciate the experience you got from your investment, and sometimes to experience that things just don’t go our way. It’s definitely a debriefing process and I think disappointment, as long as behaviour is sportsmanlike, is a normal part of it.
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He is a very gracious loser. Just that internal sadness that only a mother can see.
I just say to My daughter you did an amazing job, that’s all that matters. Move on. Don’t dwell on it just shut it down move on, he will learn.
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I think it's OK to get them to look at what could be done differently to get a different result. Learn from failure rather than dwell on it. Same when they succeed, what helped them do it?
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Op here.
Thank you for all the kind replies.
What a difference a night makes.
He has woken up happy and eager for the day!
That’s how it was for me too. I’d be gracious, but disappointed for that day/at home that night, and the next day was the bounce back and new goal.